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Tacks wrote:araby wrote: I think that living together involves too much pressure. I've done it and it doesn't work. Not for me.
I don't get it. Are you going to live seperated after marriage?
araby wrote:if he wanted to I would, but not right away. I think it'd be fun to hang out living separately at first, then maybe move in. I'm not completely opposed to it...just cautious. I'm 30 and every relationship I've had that involved living with the other person has failed. perhaps I think I could be conventional for once. imagine that.
lyion wrote:araby wrote:if he wanted to I would, but not right away. I think it'd be fun to hang out living separately at first, then maybe move in. I'm not completely opposed to it...just cautious. I'm 30 and every relationship I've had that involved living with the other person has failed. perhaps I think I could be conventional for once. imagine that.
The reasons your relationships failed has nothing to do with being married or not, but moreso your choice in dude.
Also, 30 is still very young. Most guys at 30 are just starting to act like big people.
ClakarEQ wrote:Point being, live together after a commitment has been made (engaged) and 1-4 months (IMO) prior to the wedding date (e.g. wedding is set, all arrangements set, paid, etc).
Tacks wrote:Change that to 6-8 months and I would agree.
ClakarEQ wrote:Statistically, folks that live together prior to marriage more often divorce than stay married (not looking for proof but this is what I've been told).
First marriage, lived together 4 years, divorced after 4 years, 8 year loss IMO.
Second marriage, dated 1.5 years, lived together 4 months, working on year 11 of marriage.
Point being, live together after a commitment has been made (engaged) and 1-4 months (IMO) prior to the wedding date (e.g. wedding is set, all arrangements set, paid, etc).
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