Dimuza wrote:If you keep talking like that I'm pretty sure you'll get kicked out of the union, Araby
You're supposed to say something like "Pigs pigs, men are pigs, and all children should be with their mother..."
the child belongs with whomever loves it and wants it. most children today are born unwanted, in spite of balloons and welcoming blankets, the truth is that children are loved and wanted but not in the true sense of compassion. the gift of life is an amazing one, it is one meant to be found on positive levels and when a baby is born to a loving family it is the most important thing in the baby's life. happiness that it cannot obtain itself, compassion from it's mother's breast and physical affection are imperative. anything else allows suffering for the baby.
when parents are no longer together it's important that both parents stay positive toward their child and continue to show the child affection. Ideally, parents should work together to ensure that the child has a safe, nurturing, compassionate parent with them at all times or with a caregiver of the same qualities. anything else will cause suffering for the child.
when parents cannot agree on how to spend their time with their child/children (whichever) the negative emotions will effect the child and no positive outcome can come of this chaotic situation. when a judge is intervening, it's already known that an agreement cannot be decided upon by the parents.
unfortunately, the case is not always accurate when presented to the judge. most times, it is a case of photographs taken of the environment (which was straightened before taken of course) and there are affidavits from everyone who thought enough of the situation to choose a side and write about that person, on a piece of paper for the judge to read, why they believe that parent should have rights to the child. In my particular case, our preacher wrote an affidavit in support of my ex husband and it has been said that he crossed a moral line and that his apology to me was also inappropriate and that he should have resigned his position at our church because of his poor judgment in marital advice and negative actions. Later, he was found guilty of cheating on his wife with the woman that he ironically appointed to counsel me in my times of trouble in my own marriage. Perhaps he should have given his resignation ^_^
in any case, for the courts or a judge to make a positive decision for a child they have to physically meet the parents and visit the home and make decisions based on parental behavior. this is of course ridiculous in thought and would never work, so instead we have chaos. however the chaos began when the intentions were never good to begin with.
