Prostate Self-Exam
It's easy for a man to feel his own prostate gland. It's a walnut-sized organ at the base of the bladder. It can be felt with the tip of a finger inserted into the rectum. Its texture and firmness should be similar to that of the flesh between your thumb and the rest of the hand when you make a tight fist. If you feel anything that is as firm as the knuckle, then that needs to be brought to a physician's attention.
How you reach the prostate, of course, is up to you. Some men may do the exam in the shower, where soap can be used as a lubricant. This can be a little tricky, because you need to get the palm surface of your finger in contact with the prostate, although the fingernail surface can be used for a cursory examination. You may feel more comfortable if you wear a thin latex glove.
Self-Exam With Partner
Occasionally, you see hospitals welcoming husbands and boyfriends into their breast self-examination classes. The idea is that perhaps the woman is more likely to get her breast examined if her partner is doing it. The same goes here.
It's not difficult to teach your partner how to examine your prostate gland. Aesthetics aside, this is something every individual couple has to decide if they want to do.
Many men can tell when their prostate is being touched because it's very sensitive. If you're having someone else do it, you'll know immediately when they reach paydirt. If you're doing it yourself, it will also be obvious.
Most folks are surprised by how deep they have to reach. You'd have to have long fingers, indeed, to reach completely to the far end of the prostate gland, but in medicine we are content to touch as much of the surface as possible.
As with breast self-examination, you want to cover all surfaces, and you should be consistent in how you approach it. Use a sweeping motion of the finger on one side, and then switch to the other side, to make sure that you cover as much of the surface as possible.
Patient Feedback
If you're doing this on someone else, the man can tell you when you've touched the prostate. At that point, feel for the rounded shape and the borders of the prostate, which, as I've mentioned, shouldn't be much larger than a walnut. If it is larger, the man could have enlargement of the prostate gland, which should be brought to a doctor's attention.
Once you establish the outside borders, then make sure your finger touches as much of the in-between tissue as possible. The prostate gland overall is fairly firm, as I mentioned, and you are feeling for any hardness or inconsistency in texture. If any part of it feels harder, bring it to a doctor's attention. If you're not sure, or you have any other questions, mention to your physician that you are doing self-examination or partner examination, and you want to confirm the results.
Remember, this is not to be done as a substitute for a exam by a physician. Do the self-exam at the six-month interval between your annual exams.
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best I could find with the maximum 30 seconds I intended to invest.
Good luck to you, hope it's nothing serious.