kinghooter00 wrote:Not disagreeing at all, this has all crossed my mind and there is still alot of time. This isn't set in stone. These are just routes we are most likely to make. I might run it by her and she would probably agree. She wants him to pay. She hates that he doesn't give any support to his child.
So thanks for that. I will see what happens.
the father should support the child. if he doesn't want to pay child support outside of the courts, which is how he's better off doing it, then she has the option to take him to court.
the courts will not only tell him how much to pay each month, but they will ask him for back-child support that he's not payed, all along. if she doesn't want to go that way, then she needs to move past the father not financially supporting the child and find other means of support.
if you offer some, that is a great thing for you to do and I commend you for it.
if you want to adopt the child, because you want to give it a father to call it's own, I support your decision.
either way, just remember this. if she takes the father to court for financial support, and he does not pay it, they will put him in jail. he will have to continue to pay the support, yes, while he is in jail. (with no job to pay said support.)
these decisions are your wife's to make. what does she say about all of this?