ClakarEQ wrote:For me, and I assumed about everyone, respect is earned, it is not just given freely. This isn't an innocent until proven guilty thing. I don't by default respect some stranger whom I've never met, that isn't to say I woudln't be reseptive to an opinion or statement they make.
Respect in this regard is more so about courtesy and civility, not about anything deeper. Civility should not have to be earned.
It appears many think along those lines. It's why so many threads are laden with pejoratives and slander, and lack any of the good graces.
What I call respect I guess I should rename manners, and many are lacking in that regard in their vitriol. It's sad to me, but civility seems to be going away rapidly.
I have absolutly no respect for our president, not a drop. But I still listen to what he has to say, I can even agree with some of what is said. I have no respect for Rush Limbaugh(sp), but again, I have listened to him speak, and not every word out of his mouth is complete shit (99% yeah j/k).
That's fine, but there is disagreement based on reasoning and even bias, and then there is hate filled rhetorical nastiness. The latter equates to me someone who is close minded. To some that's free speech and someone who should be admired. To me, that's someone with no class who does not want discourse, but just propaganda. The amount of silliness posted and repeated that is blatantly false makes me wonder how one deems those people open minded.
See for me, you are voiceing a close-minded opinion, you won't listen to anyone without first having respect. This means one of two things, either you give respect to all until you have reason to not have respect and at that moment you become close minded to anything said, OR you only "hear" people whom you've recieved a level of respect from and are recipricating.
No, I try to ignore those who come across with nastiness or act or post in a childish and petulant manner, and lack the good graces to see anything or discuss anything they disagree with.
I have plenty of discussions with those I disagree with. I try to ignore those who are attack dogs filled with personal hatred and lack the civility to discuss matters in a polite and open matter.
I think you confuse open mindedness with something a bit less rationale, personally.