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Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 12:00 pm
by Adivina
I am not reading through this all but I have a suggestion.
You do not need to get the info from your birth mother, adoptions have legal paperwork. Being that you were to person adopted you can go and request access to this paperwork. Perhaps through a phone call to the area you were adopted in even since you are in another country right now.
Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 1:46 pm
by Darcler
Were your birth parents married? I dont feel like looking on page 1 to see ifyou said they were or not.
If they weren't, and your mom didnt put him on the brth certificate, there is nothing you can do unless your mom wants you to know.
If they were married but he still isnt on the birth certificate, you can possibly try going to a family tree site and looking it up by your birth moms name. Its how we tracked down my cousins brother.
Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 7:10 pm
by Markarado
They weren't married, and my birth father's name is not on the birth certificate.
Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 9:43 pm
by Darcler
I think you're fucked as far as searching goes. Only your mom can do something now.
At least if they were married, you *might* be able to track down a marriage license, but I dont think there is anything you can track down that would connect him with your mom.
Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 10:53 pm
by Markarado
Yah I kinda figured as much. I thought some of you Internet guru's might have some ideas tho. Thanks anyways!
I will just have to wait for my birth mom to reply my email.
Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 11:29 pm
by Tuggan
aunts and uncles, ask them.
Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 12:40 pm
by Jay
I have an idea Mark. Start a rumor about how you got 20 million dollars from a good investment and how you learned everything you know from the Malaysian parents that adopted you and spread the word throughout wherever you think he is. He'll get in contact with you.
Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 7:09 pm
by Juls
HAhhaa good one Jay...
I think the way i see it, your birth dad might be thinking that you never did existed. Maybe your birthmom told him she was pregnant but he didnt bother and thought ..damn i think she wants money for an abortion.. and thought she did just that. Just a presumption.
Also, i doubt there is any adoption paperworks right? I'm thinking your mom just passed you to her sister without any paperworks.. i could be wrong...
Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 7:29 pm
by Darcler
Even if there was paperwork, his dad doesnt have to be on it. He isnt on the birth certificate and he didnt have to sign off on him since they werent married.
Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 7:43 pm
by Juls
true true >.< sowee
Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 9:19 pm
by Markarado
I could be wrong, but just handing your kid over would be illegal. There has to be paperwork, but as mentioned previously that won't get me anywhere.
Juls he knows I exist;p He was the one who informed my birth mother about 5 years ago that he had a family that has no idea I exist. That was when I first inquired about him.
Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 10:47 pm
by Martrae
There's your answer then. She must have mentioned you to him and his way of declining was to tell you his family didn't know you existed.

Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 11:42 pm
by Tikker
like I said
if he wanted contact with/from you, he'd have gotten ahold of you already
Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 11:46 pm
by Darcler
Markarado wrote:I could be wrong, but just handing your kid over would be illegal. There has to be paperwork, but as mentioned previously that won't get me anywhere.
Juls he knows I exist;p He was the one who informed my birth mother about 5 years ago that he had a family that has no idea I exist. That was when I first inquired about him.
Yeah, if he is talking to your mom who has the ability to contact you or get contact information from her and he still hasnt called you or anything, I would take that as a hint.

Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:01 am
by Juls
means he is worried if his family finds out he is in shit loads of trouble :p
Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:02 am
by Dylan
BUT HIS DAD REALLY WANTS TO GET A HOLD OF HIM BUT CAN'T FIND HIM GUYS
ps your dad is black
pps and putting it in Amy's butt
Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 3:18 am
by Jay
Dylan wrote:BUT HIS DAD REALLY WANTS TO GET A HOLD OF HIM BUT CAN'T FIND HIM GUYS
ps your dad is black
pps and putting it in Amy's butt

Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 11:44 am
by Dylan
Jay wrote:Dylan wrote:BUT HIS DAD REALLY WANTS TO GET A HOLD OF HIM BUT CAN'T FIND HIM GUYS
ps your dad is black
pps and putting it in Amy's butt

Was making sure other people could just read this last page instead of going through the first pages np.
Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:04 pm
by Jay
gg
Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 1:19 pm
by Darcler
Juls wrote:means he is worried if his family finds out he is in shit loads of trouble :p
In which case it is a bad idea for him to contact his dad. Also meaning he would fuck his dads family up if he went over there.
Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:37 pm
by Markarado
I'm still curious though. I don't see how emailing him could hurt when and if I get that kinda information.
Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:29 pm
by Hylissa
Doesn't your mom know who her sister was fucking? ask her ... And as someone else already said, how about aunts/uncles?
Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:30 pm
by Darcler
Markarado wrote:I'm still curious though. I don't see how emailing him could hurt when and if I get that kinda information.
Yes but youve said "meet" on more than one occasion reguarding this, so that's why i think this is an awful idea...
Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 12:18 am
by Mop
lets face it you were a coat hanger away from not posting drivel on the internetz.
Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 1:24 am
by Markarado
I'd like to meet him and my half-sister some day, but I'd start out by emailing him. If he's really not cool about meeting some day then fine. We won't meet.