Scatillac wrote:Ok so my roomate is kinda like an old man. hes 23 years old, but he doesnt go outside, he sleeps all day long, and his idea of fun is staring off into space. He is negative about EVERYTHING. i mean ou come up with an idea, or something to do and its "Fuck Thaaat".
Then there is him when hes high. He cracks jokes, goes places, and generally is funny as fuck. But thats if hes high...
Lately if we are going to go somewhere, he needs to smoke a bowl first, wether its food, or even just shopping.
He has a need for weed. He quit smoking it for like 4 months, i got so sick of it, i bought him a bag. Now hes cool again
Has anyone any idea what the fuck is going on with him?
Help.
the first step in identifying/fixing a problem is- identifying the problem.
your friend doesn't have a need for weed. your friend, sometime in the past (recently or not) has been unable to let go of negative thoughts and because he doesn't know it, he can't move past it.
the first thing your friend should do is stop smoking weed. it only enhances his depression, the negative thoughts and the unwillingness to do something other than stare into space.
the reason why he needs to stop smoking weed, is because marijuana is a downer. he's already a downer, he doesn't need more downer. You did not do him any good when you bought that bag.
once he's stopped smoking again, he we will be able to clear his mind and think with reason, as opposed to delusional thoughts. Perception is key...if your perception of something isn't realistic, then it is impossible for you to base any emotions, reactions, or thoughts on that initial perception. The reason why, is because it was never really there. It's like a lie. If I lie to you, it will be impossible for the outcome to be a good one, because the initial action was a bad action, fake reality, a reality that NEVER EXISTED.
Allowing negative thoughts into your mind is unhealthy because it destroys any chance of thinking in a forward direction. You can go ahead and consider that negative thoughts are the devil himself. If a person is thinking negative thoughts, then they can't possibly be thinking positive thoughts. The result, is a negative result then.
you can help your friend by 1-stop buying him herb
2-be positive yourself, especially since he's your roomate. you are his direct influence. everytime you say something negative to him, stop yourself, think of a way to be positive instead.
3-you can try to help him, but remember, he has to want to help himself.
the enemy-or negative thoughts-is within himself. no matter where he goes, who he lives with, the enemy will be there. once he sees that he is the only person in control of removing the negative thoughts from his mind, he will be at a good starting point for moving past the depression, sleeping and "fuck that" attitude.
of course he cracks jokes and his funny when he's high. who doesn't? the reason why is because it is a temporary escape from the delusions in his mind. remember though, it's only temporary, and a delusion in itself.
good luck
