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Post by **Lueyen** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 1:41 am

Sadly I never made it to the Stuhr museum, if I was more into the Pioneer history it might be worth it for me to hit them both sometime, but I doubt I'll end up doing that. I wouldn't be surprised to find myself back at Pioneer village at some point, one of the fire engines there my Grandpa used to drive, my Grandmother has a picture of him standing next to it in the fire house.

Sithos · Post by **Sithos** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 8:01 am

If he is 26 and she is 19...tell him to get off his pothead ass and try a bar for a woman his age and stop robbing the cradle.

If that don't work post his e-mail here for all of us. I'm sure one of our many relationship counselors will be happy to assist.

10sun · Post by **10sun** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 9:04 am

A) Get a pair of nice closed headphones and just listen to music when they are around.
That helped me out so much when I had a roomate whose girlfriend was a moaner
(I seriously thought she was injured the first time I heard it).

B) Make plans to do stuff together. If she fucks up, just don't invite her anymore.
My friends and I did the same thing to another friend for the Doom movie(yes,
we are all big dorks). He ended up bailing on us after we had made plans over
five weeks in advance to go out with his girlfriend. He wasn't happy in the end.

C) He sounds like a fucking loser. I don't know how you can take care of that...

Adivina · Post by **Adivina** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 9:06 am

Just sit down and have a straight out talk with her. Tell her you really enjoy her company and friendship and that lately you feel as if you two do not have time to just be friends, this happens with many new relationships, the couple tends to just be in their own "la la land" and unintentionally end up neglecting their other friendships. Talk to her about, make a concrete plan for a girls night on "x" night every week or every other week, etc.

Adivina · Post by **Adivina** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 9:07 am

As for Mr. Boyfriend, if she makes him happy nothing you say about him will have a good result, I am sure you know this. Don't bring your feelings about him into this, she will just feel resentful that you do not like her boyfriend.

10sun · Post by **10sun** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 9:16 am

My friends and I used to do a Wednesday Happy Hour(more like 6 hours, but whatever) as a guys only kinda thing.

ps. FUCK GERNER & KERN REO. THEY CAN TAKE FUCKING FAXES.

araby · Post by **araby** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 9:17 am

leah wrote:i strongly dislike my roommate's boyfriend. no concrete reason, i suppose... he just makes me feel negatively towards him somehow.

what do i do?

Noone makes you feel anything. You're allowing yourself to feel negatively towards him. If you have no reason to dislike him, then you need to get over it. Or find a way to connect with him.

This situation will ruin your friendship and you have to be supportive of what your friends do. Unless he's just a bad person and you know it...sounds like you have to find a way to make a connection.

leah · Post by **leah** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 10:25 am

AdivinaDarkfyre wrote: Don't bring your feelings about him into this, she will just feel resentful that you do not like her boyfriend.

i know, and i won't. there is nothing worse than having a close friend say they dislike the person who makes you so happy.

also, adi and adam, you both have really good ideas. i think i will talk to her about it... i miss her.

while i do think her bf is inherently creepy and all-around loserly, he's never really done anything to me personally that would make me hate him. i just think she can do better. she's a smart, pretty girl with a good sense of humor and a lot more going for her than a minimum-wage job and drug use, and i think she could aim higher when searching for a boyfriend and i think that frustrates me as well.

at any rate, thanks for the advice guys. i'll have a talk with her, just let her know that i miss her if nothing else, and i'll try my hardest to stop feeling so negatively towards brandon.

Adivina · Post by **Adivina** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 11:52 am

Just keep a close eye on things, as long as he does nothing to hurt her, even though he may not be the best choice for her, he is who she has choosen and there is no reason for you to tell her anything negative. I know you are smart enough to know that already though, since you have been through it you know it only makes resent.

Phlegm · Post by **Phlegm** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 11:56 am

leah wrote:while i do think her bf is inherently creepy and all-around loserly

If he is such a loser, why did you introduce him to your friend?

leah · Post by **leah** » Fri Nov 04, 2005 12:08 pm

i never really intended to introduce them as a means to lead to hooking up.

he called me one night when i was in lincoln and wondered what i was up to and i told him that i just happened to be in lincoln so he told me to stop by the restaurant and he'd give me a slice of pie and say hi and all that, so i was like "meh, whatever" and i had to admit i was kind of curious to see how he was turning out--if he'd changed any, which he hasn't--so i went with josh and ashlie to village inn.... and he was quite taken with ashlie and asked for her number. the rest is history. i regret it every time i see him.

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