I need an outsiders advice!

Post by **Martrae** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:16 pm

Jazendar wrote:Ok Martrae, you think a girl like that wants to settle down and have kids? Or dinners with candles and whine with neat little placemats and decorative plates? Think again.

Like what? One that's been hurt and wants to take things slow? What type of girl do you think this is exactly?

Adivina · Post by **Adivina** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:17 pm

Its ok Mart, we don't know what we are thinking. Jaz is obviously the expert here. Just back away.

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:19 pm

Lol... thats exactly the bullshit we're talking about, you have no idea.

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:21 pm

I am a firm believer in "women have no fucking clue what they want".

Post by **Martrae** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:22 pm

Silly me, actually being a female and in a stable relationship for 9 years (next week!) doesn't qualify me for anything. I don't know what I was thinking.

Adivina · Post by **Adivina** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:23 pm

I know exactly what I want and I made sure that I got it. But its ok, you all know me better than I know myself, there must be some deep seeded issue that I have yet to fufill.

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:27 pm

No, very few exceptions aside, women in general are fucking clueless as to what they really want.

You can not refute this, period.

You may know what you want, that is HARDLY the norm in life.

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:27 pm

I'm not saying you personally, or even women, but you guys are the ones arguing about it.

It's human nature, you can't avoid it. Talking this bullshit saying a select few from NT of all places are exempt, bullshit.

Gargamellow · Post by **Gargamellow** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:32 pm

i know what i want

some cash

someplace to live

something to leave behind for my kids

a cold brewski cuz it's fucking hot in here

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:34 pm

Garg I could marry you :wink:

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:35 pm

I agree

Trielelvan · Post by **Trielelvan** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:35 pm

Yeah, because men always know exactly what it is in life they want Harri :mystery:

Seriously guys, this is not a male/female issue. This is a question of maturity, and I mean that in the most sincere way. It's not a matter of mature as in responsible/irresponsible, attitude, or most of the other things people tend to make fun of regarding maturity, though all the above have a lot to do with the final outcome.

Men don't have any more clue about what they want out of life and a partner than most women do. Women just tend to be annoying fuckton more vocal about it.

Oh, and fyi: dinner, sex, shutting up, and a blowjob do not = knowing what you want from your partner.

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:44 pm

I know what I want from a woman.

I've had it...

Where it went from there is a long story...

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:45 pm

P.S. I'm not saying I am an example of ALL men.

Men are equally as guilty of confusion as you stupid bitches are.

I am not one of them.

Minrott · Post by **Minrott** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 7:59 pm

Yeah you are dude. You just don't know it yet. What you want changes with your life, and no matter how wise you think you are, you don't know what you're going to want 10 years from now.

Because one day you'll have it, that perfect picture of what you thought you wanted, and at that point of realization you'll come to the conclusion it ain't all it's cracked up to be.

Post by **Martrae** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 8:01 pm

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 8:02 pm

Who in the fuck knows what they want 10 years from now?

labbats · Post by **labbats** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 8:19 pm

Women only know what they don't want. The rest is posturing.

araby · Post by **araby** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 8:38 pm

Harrison wrote:Who in the fuck knows what they want 10 years from now?

this question was asked of me a few weeks ago and I had no idea how to answer it.

Adivina · Post by **Adivina** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 9:09 pm

araby wrote:
Harrison wrote:Who in the fuck knows what they want 10 years from now?

this question was asked of me a few weeks ago and I had no idea how to answer it.

My only answer to that is on the most basic level.

I want to be healthy, happy, and with Aryy.

Everything else kind of stems out from that, but I can't tell you where I want to be in a job 10 years from now

Markarado · Post by **Markarado** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 10:11 pm

What kind of girl do you think she is exactly? I don't expect you to know as you've never met her and know very little about her past. I can see how you can draw assumptions of what kind of girl she is from what I said, but I guarantee you that you're wrong. It's not like we met and slept together within a few weeks of knowing each other. We've known each other for 5 years and have always been very close friends. Only in the last month have things escalated between us. She has feelings for me and vice versa. Sleeping together has strengthened our relationship.

She's not going to get bored and run off to another guy. I promise you that.

Let's see, what do I want in life? I want to get married some day to a person I love and have kids. I want to see my kids grow up to be happy and succesful. I would like to be financialy succesful, but more importantly I want to be succesful in the lives of my family members.

I don't know who I want to marry, I don't know how many kids I want to have, I have no idea where my life will take me, and I have no idea what to expect. I'd say that everyone has a general idea of what they want, but really no one has any idea of what they want. Get what I mean? And I agree, the 'no clue' part of my life is a part that will offshoot from what I do know I want.

Small update... Things between Amy and I are going great... I've never been happier =)

Narrock · Post by **Narrock** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 10:56 pm

Women want to sit around on their fat asses and flirt with other guys on the internet while the husband slaves away at his job to make a comfortable living for HER. Well, not all women are like that but many are.

liquidstayce · Post by **liquidstayce** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 11:01 pm

Amy sounds like a keeper and you obviously are doing well. Keep going with the flow and enjoy. Try not to be overly analytical and define your relationship but do keep the lines of communication open with her and continue talking. Good Luck!

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 11:25 pm

Yeah you're awesome lasting a whole two days so far.

Gaazy · Post by **Gaazy** » Sun Apr 16, 2006 11:28 pm

personally, i believe most women are complete dipshits, then again im 21 and havent exactly lived life as far as most of you, so i guess im not as entitled to an opnion here as most

eg. im speaking of as in my college term here so far and girls liking football playing nigs who will in turn treat them like shit and cheat on them and turn them against guys, but meh