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More women choosing mates for their looks

Postby Phlegm » Sun May 07, 2006 4:58 pm

From United Press International:

ST. ANDREWS, Scotland, May 7 (UPI) -- Women are becoming more like men when it comes to choosing a mate, says a new study conducted at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland.

Instead of seeking a man who can provide for her during her childbearing years, today's woman is more interested in looks, concluded a report on the study in the Chicago Tribune Sunday.

Conducted by the School of Psychology at St. Andrew, the study also found that the more ambitious a woman is about her career, financial independence and decision-making, the more likely she is to seek a younger mate.

"We know that we are becoming more equal in the workplace and the economy. We now know that the ability of women to provide for themselves is causing them to change their mate preferences," said Fhionna Moore, lead researcher. "Our preferences are becoming more like male preferences."

The study was conducted online and examined the response of 1,851 women aged 18 to 35 who were single, in heterosexual relationships or married. Most participants were from the United Kingdom, Europe and the United States.
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Postby Tuggan » Sun May 07, 2006 5:24 pm

oh snap, i guess diekan was right all along.
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Postby Xaiveir » Sun May 07, 2006 5:41 pm

Geeee not surprised
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Postby Diekan » Sun May 07, 2006 5:41 pm

LOL HAHA about time! Finally, a study that proves what we intelligent men already knew. Now maybe women will stop spewing that shit about just wanting a "nice guy who treats them right."

You all want the real low down on "today's" woman? Well, here it is... what do women look for in a man?

1. Looks - Here we have a creature who will spend two hours getting ready to go out. A creature that will spend an entire day at the mall looking for just the right dress and matching shoes. What... they suddenly don't care what their man looks like? Women are jealous creatures. Nothing, I mean nothing gives them more pleasure than parading a "hottie" around with them to make all their friends and family foaming with jealousy. You ever been sitting behind a couple of chicks in some restuarant, at the movies, or where ever and listen to them giggle and slobber over themselves over a really hot guy?

2. Sense of humor - Women are all about having fun, period. They want to laugh and have a good time in pretty much everything they do. If you don't have a good sense of humor - you better be damn hot and have some cash. They very much expect you to make them laugh.

3. Money - Do I really need to explain this one? If I do, then you obviously haven't been laid yet.

Ok, so lets be fair for a moment. Lets take a few minutes and talk about the above requirements of "today's" woman.

As most of you know (those of you who live in the US) Americans take EVERYTHING to an extreme. What do I mean? Here's an example. We've all had the age old phrase "be confident in yourself" pounded into our heads. Of course there's nothing wrong with being confident in yourself, but you see... Americans can't just do that. Americans take it to the next level. People aren't just confident in themselves... they're fucking arrogent, conceited, vain and full of themselves.

See what I'm getting at here?

When it comes to looks... YES I will conceid that looks are an important ingredient in a relationship. If you're not physically attracted to someone it makes it very hard to have sex, or for that matter even be affectionate with each other. But, here again, Americans (both men and women) take it way to far. Everyone thinks [they] deserve <insert your favorite "hot" actor / actress here>. People aren't satisfied with someone whom they find REASONABLY attractive... no they expect the person they end up with to make them wet or give them a hard on when they walk through the door.

About laughing. Once again we see how the American takes it to the extreme. Women aren't satisified with someone who can make them crack a smile now and then, or get them to laugh once and while... no... they gotta have Jerry fucking Seingfeld at their side.

Now for the money... yes... I DO agree that it is also reasonably important. Particularly for women. I said reasonably. If I were a woman I too wouldn't want some guy in his 30's flipping burgers for min wage. I do think that for a lot of women, the money isn't necessarily about being able to buy her everything under the sun. But, to a degree it's a good way for her to sort of judge your level of stability and success. Think about it for a moment. If you're a 30 something dude and you're working at McDonalds cleaning the fry machine... you're not going to look very successful or stable for that matter in her eyes. BBBUUTTTT - here again we take it way out of context. A reasonable wage with a good company isn't enough... no.... she's gotta have Bill slobonmyknob Gates.

Women also have a very warped and fucked up idea of what a real man is. If you're not forgetting her birthday, breaking dates to go out with the guys, sitting around scratching your nads while watching football - you're probably not going to come across as a "guy's guy" in her eyes.

You see a lot of women want to be "the one" who makes you settle down. I guess in some warped and fucked in the head way - it makes them feel important or special. Even though it never works. You can't force someone to change at the core.

Another thing you have to understand is that a lot of women put much of their self-worth in the value of their man. "Oh my husband / boyfriend is a doctor!" Do you see what I'm talking about here? The more prestigous you appear to the public the more valuable she feels.

Soooo, you think I'm full of shit aye? Then explain to me why almost 60% of American marriages end in divorce. Explain why nearly 70% of all relationships suffer from one cheating on the other.

People have gotten increasingly shallow over the years. Women are a lot more concerned with your looks, sense of humor and wallet size then they are with how you actually treat them. Personality takes a backseat and if you're good looking, funny and have some bank you can pretty much be the biggest asshole in the world and she won't care. After all, she'll make it her mission to change you - then once she does - she'll no longer see you as a real man and dump your ass for the guy she was fucking on the side.

You guys want a few tips on keeping a woman? Don't hold doors, buy flowers, listen to her when she talks, or even remotely indicate that you care about her. If do that, she'll label you as a pussy and drop you like a dime.

I HAVE dated an assload of women. Latin and White... from all walks of life. Professionals, military chicks, blue collar chicks, religious, non-religious, liberal, republican, poor, rich - and one thing has remained consitant with ALL of them. The ones I treated like shit I couldn't get rid of. The ones I showed care and consideration to - lost interest.

People are so miserable because they have their standards set way to high (as is the American way). Hey man... just because you're YOU doesn't mean you deserve Shaina Twain in your bed. You can't be an average person with average looks and expect to fuck 90% of the Beta Pi sorority. And women... just because you're YOU doesn't mean you deserve Brat Pitt either.

People need to focus more on what really matters. COMPATABILITY. Find someone with whom you share common interests, with whom you share similar political opinions, who you know you can trust, who you can talk to, who has similar goals in life (as far as kids, house and the ole white picket fenses)... stop holding out for the 36/24/36 super model you think you "deserve" Stop holding out for tall, dark and handsome pretty boy who's going to wisk you off to Hawaii for the weekend.

It is ok to expect your man to be stable, holding down a decent job, who can make you smile, and yes, who you do find reasonably attractive. Just stop pretending you're so special you only deserve a comedic pretty boy, with a fat wallet. You don't.
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Postby Tuggan » Sun May 07, 2006 5:54 pm

do you have these rants all typed out and ready to post whenever you get the chance? everytime something even slightly related shows up, you got a 5 page essay up like 3 minutes later.
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Postby Diekan » Sun May 07, 2006 5:55 pm

yeah I keep them right next to my crystal ball. no i can actually read and type fast.
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Postby Gypsiyee » Sun May 07, 2006 6:50 pm

So you mean women don't want to be with someone they think is ugly? WOW, what a concept!

ps, i think you missed this quote:

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Postby Diekan » Sun May 07, 2006 7:31 pm

You're not getting it. Women aren't just turning down guys they think are ugly, they're turning down guys they don't think are ugly, but who aren't "hot" enough. Women think they're something special who only deserve the best of the best just because they are who they are.

I've heard some of my own female friends say it... "yeah he's cute, but I want someone better looking."

Actually, I blame men for this whole situation. If men weren't fucking retards who run around drolling over every women they see in hopes of 'getting some' - women would have their heads up their ass thinking they're all that and a bag of chips when all they really are is just a bag of chips.

Women may be shallow and thinking they something more than they really are, but men are morons and the cause of it all.

You ever see the loser in the office who runs after the hot admin chick doing everything she asks because he hopes that one day she'll suddenly throw herself at him? Yeah, it's those pathetic, late night wacking off to Cimemax, losers who give women such huge egos...
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Postby Gypsiyee » Sun May 07, 2006 7:34 pm

And men don't turn down women who aren't 'hot' enough? rofl - are you delirious? Or as always with you, is it one of those double standards you like so much?

PS - I can safely say I've never turned anyone down for not being 'hot' enough - not that I have much room to, but don't stereotype.
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Postby Diekan » Sun May 07, 2006 7:37 pm

Nice - delirious is putting words into someone elses mouth to make a point.

I never said men weren't as bad. Read my edit. Men are morons. Men are just as guilty for doing it as well. The difference is this: men haven't spent decades spewing bullshit about wanting something they don't really want. Men have always come out and said it....
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Postby araby » Sun May 07, 2006 7:38 pm

Women aren't just turning down guys they think is ugly, they're turning down guys they don't think are ugly, but who aren't "hot" enough.


this sentence shows us a lot about why you are turned down. :wink:
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Postby Diekan » Sun May 07, 2006 7:48 pm

Turned down? I hardly get turned down. I'd say probably out of 10 women I approach I get turned down by 3 - on average. Most of the time (whether white or latin) I stop dating them because of issues of incompatibility.

Sadly, most of the time that I get approached it's usually by some married chick. I say sadly because it doesn't bolster my confidence in the institution of marriage.

You all can mock my comments all you want, but the fact remains I have heard so many women saying the same thing... "he's cute, but so and so is really hot."
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Postby Captain Insano » Sun May 07, 2006 7:50 pm

You can be poor as FUCK, ugly and scrawny with no confidence and get crazy bitches, IF, you can breakdance.

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Postby DangerPaul » Sun May 07, 2006 8:03 pm

lol ralf

Why is every acting like this is late breaking news? I thought this was common knowledge.
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Postby Dylan » Sun May 07, 2006 9:45 pm

Wow, Gypsiyee and araby are retarded.
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Postby Martrae » Sun May 07, 2006 10:32 pm

It just means girls are starting to look more for sex than money. You guys should rejoice. ;)
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Postby Narrock » Sun May 07, 2006 11:15 pm

This is no groundbreaking news. Women have had the same attitude since the early 80's. Most women are vain and shallow, but so are most men.
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Postby Drem » Sun May 07, 2006 11:43 pm

Dylan wrote:Wow, Gypsiyee and araby are retarded.


I'll kick your ass faggot :-x
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Postby Spazz » Sun May 07, 2006 11:48 pm

:lol: diekan your women rants are great you seem so bitter. Were you not goin on bout wanting to be with slender attractive women not too long ago? I get the impression your ugly broke and have no sense of humor.
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Postby Juls » Mon May 08, 2006 1:24 am

Dieken, I have to agree with you on 80% of the statement. And yes! women like to use the phrase "He's cute and this and that is hotter" but at the end of the day, most of us end up with one that is even less cuter than the one we think is hot. I'm talking about average women not those sexy, hot, model, picky, materialistic ones around the world lately.

My personal requirement is He's at least acceptable looking, trust me, cares for me of cuz, at least has a proper job and not sit around playing WOW or any games leaching the government's money and of cuz play computer games.

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Postby Parv » Mon May 08, 2006 5:52 am

Americans take it to the next level. People aren't just confident in themselves... they're fucking arrogent, conceited, vain and full of themselves.


And this is why I want to fucking leave the country. I've always gotten along better with internationals here, and it's because they don't have the me-me-me complex that I have to deal with here in the south. I'm astounded at the entitlements that natives here expect to have in their lives without even trying, and then being amazed that everyone, particularly myself, doesn't kowtow to them. I don't have a superiority complex, I have my own mess of problems, but at least my life is going somewhere instead of being stuck at the same dead-end job for years before spending retirement saying "Welcome to Wal-mart!" Lafayette has been great for getting my career started, but it's been a fucking cesspool for my social life.

Thankfully I have my exit plan worked out, complete with employment - my company will basically be paying me to live & work overseas, and wherever I want at that. So suck it America.
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Postby Martrae » Mon May 08, 2006 7:05 am

You'll still be an asshole American no matter where you go.
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Postby Adivina » Mon May 08, 2006 7:23 am

Notice how it says "more women" and not "all women" get off your cross Diekan, it really gets old.
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Postby Eziekial » Mon May 08, 2006 7:46 am

Parv are you in Lafayette Louisiana?

As so the topic, I think it's great that women are taking looks more into consideration. It sucks for ugly guys, but they can always work hard and make lots of money to score.
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Postby Vincenti » Mon May 08, 2006 8:00 am

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