PreNup...yes or no?

Post by **Martrae** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 12:44 pm

All a pre-nup does is protect assets from BEFORE you're married. If Virra doesn't have any assets now then there's no point. If he gains assets AFTER you are married then those assets are not covered by a pre-nup

Seriously, though, you guys have been together for how long? If he's suddenly throwing a pre-nup in your face I'd think twice about marrying him.

Bodin · Post by **Bodin** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 12:45 pm

Change you SS#? Surname yes, however why SS#?

*Edit re read some*

You don't need to get a new SS if you leave you last name as is anyhow.

Gargamellow · Post by **Gargamellow** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 12:47 pm

Mart-
We have been together for five years. He wants to adjust the prenup to cover his inheritance.

Nidob-
I guess it is just a new card with a new surname /shrug..never been married..haven't even ever been close to getting married..

when i was with my ex, i picked up a dress at the goodwill for 12 bucks and a box of brandi glasses...that's as close as i got

fuck it..i am not meant for nuptuals..i am meant to rule the universe..i have no time for love!

Jay · Post by **Jay** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 12:49 pm

Inheritance? So you'll be moving into a double wide then?

leah · Post by **leah** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 12:54 pm

why is he asking about a prenup (or altering one, even) if y'all aren't married and don't seem to be planning to get married (since you've said many, many times now that you "haven't ever even been close to getting married"). i guess i don't understand why this is an issue at all if A) you aren't married (meaning there is no existing prenup) and B) you aren't planning on getting married. why is he even asking about it if you're not getting married?

Gargamellow · Post by **Gargamellow** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 12:54 pm

more like a giant house on the coast of maine plus property

like i said..if he is so concerned with me taking his stupid money (of which i wouldn't even begin to know how to spend) then he can marry someone else

Bodin · Post by **Bodin** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 12:56 pm

Prenup and keep your last name then~ all settled.

Bodin · Post by **Bodin** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:00 pm

*edit wrong thread*

Gargamellow · Post by **Gargamellow** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:01 pm

? /boggled to last comment by nidob

Phlegm · Post by **Phlegm** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:04 pm

leah wrote:why is he asking about a prenup (or altering one, even) if y'all aren't married and don't seem to be planning to get married (since you've said many, many times now that you "haven't ever even been close to getting married"). i guess i don't understand why this is an issue at all if A) you aren't married (meaning there is no existing prenup) and B) you aren't planning on getting married. why is he even asking about it if you're not getting married?

Common Law Marriage:

In fifteen states and the District of Columbia (see below), though, common law marriages are recognized. If a man and a woman (same-sex marriages aren't recognized) live together and "intend to be married" by acting like they are married, telling people they are married, and doing the things married people do (using words like "husband" and "wife," filing joint tax returns, etc.), they become common law spouses. This gives them the same rights and responsibilities as people who got married the old-fashioned way, with a trip to City Hall and a wedding.

Common law marriage isn't something to do lightly. If you become married by common law and later decide you want to end your relationship, you still have to have a standard, legal divorce. In this way, common law marriages are very similar to regular marriages: they're usually easier to get into than to get out of.

There's no simple test to see if a couple qualifies as being common law married, and the only time the question usually arises is in court. If, after death or separation, one partner claims there was a common law marriage and wants the benefits of marriage, the court would consider many factors to determine if there was truly intent to be married. Since the seven-years-to-automatic-marriage idea is only a myth, determining whether a common law marriage existed can be complicated. Some lawyers recommend that couples write, sign, and date a simple statement that says they do or do not intend to be married, to offer protection should the question ever arise.

If you create a common law marriage in one of the states below and later move to a state that does not recognize common law marriage, your marriage can technically still exist. All marriages, common law or otherwise, are recognized by all states, regardless of where they were created (the debate about legalizing same-sex marriage gets tricky here, since technically, a lesbian marriage created in whatever state legalizes it first should be recognized by all other states).

Phlegm · Post by **Phlegm** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:05 pm

States That Recognize Common Law Marriage:

Alabama
Colorado
District of Columbia
Georgia (if created before 1/97)
Idaho (if created before 1/96)
Iowa
Kansas
Montana
New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only)
Ohio (if created before 10/91)
Oklahoma (possibly only if created before 11/1/98. Oklahoma's laws and court decisions may be in conflict about whether common law marriages formed in that state after 11/1/98 will be recognized.)
Pennsylvania (if created before 9/03)
Rhode Island
South Carolina
Texas
Utah

Jay · Post by **Jay** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:06 pm

She's in IL

Gargamellow · Post by **Gargamellow** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:08 pm

Leah-

I will be 31 on the 17th. I am struggling with the idea of marriage because I have been socialized to believe that women should be married by my age.

I am not exactly a young pup. It is either now or never. Soon, my tits will fall to the floor. My ass will stop being hot. My face will be a purse waiting to happen.

I just wish I could shake this feeling that I have missed out in some way by not getting married.

I stay confused. Every day I change my mind.

Tikker · Post by **Tikker** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:17 pm

Gargamellow wrote:I just wish I could shake this feeling that I have missed out in some way by not getting married.

being married isn't any different than living together

kaharthemad · Post by **kaharthemad** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:23 pm

Tikker wrote:
Gargamellow wrote:I just wish I could shake this feeling that I have missed out in some way by not getting married.

being married isn't any different than living together

not true since Im married to Mar insurance was picked up, now I can kill her and collect the 3 million dollar insurance check

Tikker · Post by **Tikker** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:24 pm

kaharthemad wrote:
Tikker wrote:
Gargamellow wrote:I just wish I could shake this feeling that I have missed out in some way by not getting married.

being married isn't any different than living together

not true since Im married to Mar insurance was picked up, now I can kill her and collect the 3 million dollar insurance check

i'm not married, and my GF and I have life insurance
I'd only get a million bucks tho =\

ps cheque

Bodin · Post by **Bodin** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:25 pm

AAA discounts on car insurance with a bundled home insurance too!

leah · Post by **leah** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:30 pm

but that doesn't really answer my question, garg. if there are no wedding plans, why is he bothering to ask about a prenup? it just seems like you make some very strong, opinionated statements and then negate them two posts later, y'know? like "virra is asking about a prenup what should i do" and then all of a sudden "f that i'm not married nor am i anywhere near married"

i mean something just doesn't gel there, y'know? either you're getting married (which would warrant the prenup discussion) or you're not (making the whole discussion moot).

Gargamellow · Post by **Gargamellow** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:32 pm

no discussion is worthless

especially when i can't decide...

how old will you be when you get married?

i will probably be on my deathbed

im off to a meeting bbl

leah · Post by **leah** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:45 pm

aaaaand i'm still answerless :\ that's maddening.

as for myself, assuming i stay with josh, i doubt i'll ever get married.

Zanchief · Post by **Zanchief** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:47 pm

leah wrote:aaaaand i'm still answerless :\ that's maddening.

as for myself, assuming i stay with josh, i doubt i'll ever get married.

You must just not be marriage material.

leah · Post by **leah** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:53 pm

apparently not. ;\

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 2:51 pm

araby wrote:if you think it's not the real thing or think you guys don't have trust then that's one thing but you wouldn't ruin love by protecting yourself and your children in the event something happened. I look at is as one of the "better to have and not need" kind of things. I've heard lots of sob stories where protection would have been better for the person with a prenup. they aren't just for the rich.

Royce da 5'9"

holding what I would rather have and not need, then need and not have it...

Darcler · Post by **Darcler** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 3:15 pm

I was married at 18 and 21. Win.

Tae-Bo · Post by **Tae-Bo** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 3:28 pm

i wanna get married right now