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Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sat Dec 23, 2006 6:25 pm

If one of your best friends for 10+ years, was having a kid, and you were never told.

He hasn't talked to me since his birthday Nov 23rd, and I keep hearing about it from people who shouldn't exactly be fucking informed before I.

Just curious if you'd be pissed off...

Sithos · Post by **Sithos** » Sat Dec 23, 2006 6:53 pm

Hasn't talked to you in a month. He's having a kid and hasn't told you. Did you do something the night of his B-Day that mighta pissed him off? Even something small that while drunk was blown outta proportion?

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sat Dec 23, 2006 7:03 pm

No, we didn't drink.

Spazz · Post by **Spazz** » Sat Dec 23, 2006 7:26 pm

Who knows friendships end all the time, people get busy , and people outgrow each other. I dont know if mad is the word to use maybe just disapointed you thought you was down and they shut you out. Not really something you should get bent out of shape about like a they dont give a fuck bout you why should you give one back for them situation. Ya know what im sayin.

Foutty · Post by **Foutty** » Sat Dec 23, 2006 7:33 pm

Yes

If I was a woman

Tuggan · Post by **Tuggan** » Sat Dec 23, 2006 7:34 pm

I usually dont wait more than a month to chat it up with my "best friends". :dunno:

Spazz · Post by **Spazz** » Sat Dec 23, 2006 7:39 pm

Thats a good point too. Im sure even your punk ass has a cell phone.

Jay · Post by **Jay** » Sat Dec 23, 2006 8:20 pm

So Adivina is pregnant?

Zanchief · Post by **Zanchief** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 1:13 am

He/she probably doesn't like you anymore.

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 1:14 am

Don't quit your dayjob, Freud.

Post by **Lueyen** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 2:35 am

Based on the fact that you didn't state any possible reasons for your friends actions, and that you are asking here and appearing confused as to what your reaction should be, I'm guessing you don't have any idea as to why you weren't told. If you thought you knew why chances are you'd either be accepting of it or angry about it, not questioning what your reaction should/will be.

People rarely make completely irrational decisions although the motives might be elusive or difficult/impossible to understand, but at the very least simply ask your friend why before getting angry. As others have stated you may find that you've offended them in some way, or it might be something as innocent of concerns over miscarriage, and fear of getting close friends hopes up.. and letting it slip to someone they weren't close to.

Gypsiyee · Post by **Gypsiyee** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 3:02 am

omg not to derail but this is the first time i've ever paid attention to lueyen's avatar

cute.

Iccarra · Post by **Iccarra** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 3:56 am

I'd probably be a little disappointed...but if you don't know why then ask your friend. No sense in assuming the worst in the meantime.

mappatazee · Post by **mappatazee** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 10:02 am

Where did your friendship go... Posts: 14272

Juls · Post by **Juls** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 11:13 am

´Two reasons..

1: He has been to worried about his own problem and hasnt had the time to think who he should tell it too?
2: He thinks u are a big mouth and would prefer to shut up about it from you.

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 11:28 am

mappatazee wrote:Where did your friendship go... Posts: 14272

Wow, you're on a roll. Are you some sort of comedian?

runamonk · Post by **runamonk** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 11:51 am

Harrison wrote:If one of your best friends for 10+ years, was having a kid, and you were never told.

He hasn't talked to me since his birthday Nov 23rd, and I keep hearing about it from people who shouldn't exactly be fucking informed before I.

Just curious if you'd be pissed off...

Yeah I might be a little annoyed. Maybe he thinks you're going to give him shit about it so he's dreading it.

Why not just ask him about it and stop playing games?

KILL · Post by **KILL** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 1:56 pm

Foutty wrote:Yes

If I was a woman

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Sun Dec 24, 2006 5:12 pm

Bide your time and fuck the kid when they are 14.

brinstar · Post by **brinstar** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 2:54 am

Iccarra wrote:I'd probably be a little disappointed...but if you don't know why then ask your friend. No sense in assuming the worst in the meantime.

win

just ask, only way to be sure. if it's BS, then you can get pissed. if it's an oversight, let it go!

Iccarra · Post by **Iccarra** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 11:25 am

Dylan wrote:Bide your time and fuck the kid when they are 14.

Post by **Martrae** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 2:33 pm

Jay wrote:So Adivina is pregnant?

Gargamellow · Post by **Gargamellow** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 3:35 pm

No, we didn't drink.

Maybe that is the problem?

It's probably nothing. I wouldn't worry or be upset. Try putting yourself in his shoes. He is going to be a DADDY!

If he is truly your friend then you should be bringing him a cigar.

Narrock · Post by **Narrock** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 6:00 pm

a Monica Lewinski signature series cigar at that

Trielelvan · Post by **Trielelvan** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 6:54 pm

Gargamellow wrote:If he is truly your friend then you should be bringing him a cigar.

Why get pissed about it? It will do what good? Let it go, congratulate him, and catch up on what's been going on in his life.

You will find, as you get older, that the more people have going on in their lives, the less often they tend to talk about it, even with their best friends.
Jj and his best buds have been friends going on 20+ years now, and we didn't find out, until it was almost too late, that one of them was going to have a baby right around the same time we were due. It happens.

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