Hard family times

[Trielelvan]

Married, 2 kids.
I hope you continue to give her the needed break once a week or so. I promise you, it will make all the difference in the long haul. She will appreciate you tons for it. Being a SAHM can make you batshit crazy, especially when the kid is toddler age, and you are singing "Inkle Inkle Ittle Stah" and watching the same video 293083483758345 times in a row.
Grats on your marriage!

How can you say you will love a woman for life but not take responsibility for the other half of the commitment??? It doesn't make sense to me. They have to go hand in hand as far as i'm concerned. Otherwise it just seems like you don't really want the kid but have to in order to get the girl.

Regardless of what other's are saying here, I think that is a very commendable thing you are doing. They're right - you don't *have* to adopt her. Therein lies the truth of the depth of love you are willing to give, which is to take complete and utter full responsibility as though she were your own child.

From what some friends have told me in the past, the commitment you are making to her in adopting her will really mean something very special to her when she grows up. One of my friends and his sibling take it very personally that their stepmom did not adopt them (but their dad adopted her kid). However, another friend, who's stepdad did adopt him, feels a very special bond to him because of his dad's choice to make him his own.

If you are sure, then I say more power to you.
Personally, regardless of what were to happen with my marriage in the future, I would never allow anyone else to adopt my kids. That's just how I am though. Good luck.

[Jay]

I think any action with good intentions will only lead to good things.

I think that's the biggest falicy I ever heard in my lifetime.

[Phlegm]

I think any action with good intentions will only lead to good things.

That's what Jesus though before he got spiked to the cross.

[Martrae]

I think any action with good intentions will only lead to good things.

You never heard the adage "The road to hell is paved with good intentions"?

[Diekan]

Married, 2 kids.
I hope you continue to give her the needed break once a week or so. I promise you, it will make all the difference in the long haul. She will appreciate you tons for it. Being a SAHM can make you batshit crazy, especially when the kid is toddler age, and you are singing "Inkle Inkle Ittle Stah" and watching the same video 293083483758345 times in a row.
Grats on your marriage!

How can you say you will love a woman for life but not take responsibility for the other half of the commitment??? It doesn't make sense to me. They have to go hand in hand as far as i'm concerned. Otherwise it just seems like you don't really want the kid but have to in order to get the girl.

Regardless of what other's are saying here, I think that is a very commendable thing you are doing. They're right - you don't *have* to adopt her. Therein lies the truth of the depth of love you are willing to give, which is to take complete and utter full responsibility as though she were your own child.

From what some friends have told me in the past, the commitment you are making to her in adopting her will really mean something very special to her when she grows up. One of my friends and his sibling take it very personally that their stepmom did not adopt them (but their dad adopted her kid). However, another friend, who's stepdad did adopt him, feels a very special bond to him because of his dad's choice to make him his own.

If you are sure, then I say more power to you.
Personally, regardless of what were to happen with my marriage in the future, I would never allow anyone else to adopt my kids. That's just how I am though. Good luck.

Why do you women make adopting the child a "proof" of love? Why can't a man just love and take care of the child... what's with the need to adopt him/her?

There is no way in hell I would adopt a child... with the success rate of today's marriages? Not a chance. I, for one, would not put my financial future on the line so she can feel all warm and fuzzy inside because I adopted her child. That warm and fuzzy feeling, by the way, is in reality, her knowing she's 'gitten PAID' when the divorce eventually happens.

I don't think it's an admirable thing at all. I think it's stupid. I think it's assinine. I think men who do it, or are willing to do it are nothing more than perfect marks for some chick looking to ensure she can pay the bills long after his dumbass has been sent packing.

If anyone thinks you have to adopt a child to prove your love for it... you're an idiot, period and you DESERVE to have you wallet dry cleaned by her attorney (who is probably on speed dial) when the time comes.

Seriously - STOP letting women get you by the nuts. They can play it to a tune... but be a fucking man about it and tell her no. If she asks.... tell her you don't need to change the child's last name to yours to prove you love her/him. And, if she insists - you better get to stepping because her motives ain't got nothing to do with love.

Wake up and stop listening to this horse shit. Stop setting yourself up for financial disaster so some chick can feel good inside.

[Trielelvan]

Hey, moron, I never said it was "proof" of love, nor did I say anywhere that it was for the wife.

If you had any reading comprehension, then you'd understand it's not for the wife, but for the kid, and, much like the idea of marriage, which I doubt you will ever grasp anytime in the near future, it has to do with the commitment factor, which is the major part of what makes a marriage, well, a marriage.

Here, maybe this is easier: when confronted with the idea of having your own kids, would you say "no" because of the financial risk?
He is, in essence, making the little girl "his" daughter for all - ALL - intents and purposes, right down to paying child support should it come to that. It has nothing to do with making his wife "warm and fuzzy" since the kid HAS a father whom she could probably already rape for child support + back payments. You getting this yet?

Like I already said though, not my cup of tea. I have issues with the idea of anyone adopting my kids. I find it hard to understand why anyone else would let someone else do that, personally. However, it doesn't make his actions any less commendable, because that is a HUGE responsibility he is accepting, regardless of how stupid you think it is.

Now shut the fuck up and go get laid or something already

[Martrae]

Bravo, Triel!

[Diekan]

Hey, moron, I never said it was "proof" of love, nor did I say anywhere that it was for the wife.

If you had any reading comprehension, then you'd understand it's not for the wife, but for the kid, and, much like the idea of marriage, which I doubt you will ever grasp anytime in the near future, it has to do with the commitment factor, which is the major part of what makes a marriage, well, a marriage.

Here, maybe this is easier: when confronted with the idea of having your own kids, would you say "no" because of the financial risk?
He is, in essence, making the little girl "his" daughter for all - ALL - intents and purposes, right down to paying child support should it come to that. It has nothing to do with making his wife "warm and fuzzy" since the kid HAS a father whom she could probably already rape for child support + back payments. You getting this yet?

Like I already said though, not my cup of tea. I have issues with the idea of anyone adopting my kids. I find it hard to understand why anyone else would let someone else do that, personally. However, it doesn't make his actions any less commendable, because that is a HUGE responsibility he is accepting, regardless of how stupid you think it is.

Now shut the fuck up and go get laid or something already

LOL

Fat, single mother rage!!

You see - this pig thinks it's "commendable." Why? Because she's a fat single mother.... OF COURSE she thinks it's commendable. Her ole man booted her chubby ass to the curb, so you don't think she has a hate of men? You don't think she's laid awake at night running her cheeto stained fingers through her hair wishing she could get back all men? OF course she has... ALL single mothers do. Especially the lard assed ones who know they're fucked and not getting a good man.

LOL.

You getting this porky? No one in their right mind would adopt your fucktrophy... so no... you're not getting a pay check down the road. At least not from a guy who has any brains.

[vonkaar]

[Diekan]

Oh and one more thing there, tubby... no it's NOT my child. My penis didn't ejaculate the sperm that ended up being a child. Why the fuck should "I" have to adopt it. YOU'RE the stupid ass who couldn't keep her legs closed for some asshole she knew deep down inside she wouldn't be with forever. Fuck you. I'm not paying for YOUR mistake.

IT'S NOT HIS KID - you get that or have the mashed potatoes from last nights sloppin' affected your thinking.

It has NOTHING to do with "stepping up" and making the child "his own." Guess what, dumbass? It's NOT his. It'll never be his.

Yet, despite that... as I have been saying alllllll along, which you have chosen to ignore...

Y.O.U D.O. N.O.T. H.A.V.E. T.O. A.D.O.P.T A C.H.I.L.D T.O. L.O.V.E. T.H.A.T. C.H.I.L.D.

In fact it shouldn't even legal. It shouldn't even be an option. Too many men have been taken to the cleaners by psycho single moms (which about 99.999999999% of them are fucking basket cases of emotional bagage anyway).

[Xaiveir]

WTH is going on in this thread...........

[Diekan]

1. Someone told the group that he was thinking of adopting his new wife's child.
2. Some of us told him "bad idea" and gave valid reasons why he shouldn't do it.
3. Single mother rage kicks in and the women here go off about... "but but but it's soooo commendable!"
4. I pointed out that it's not commendable for him to jeopardize his financial future for a child that isn't even his.
5. Single mother rage kicks in again and insults are exchanged.
6. Now in good ole NT style - we've gone from discussion to calling each other "morons" and "fat asses."

The end.

[Maeya]

I keep imagining spittle and froth running down Diekan's chin as his chest heaves after each and every raving post. Maybe some crazy eye action going on, too.

[Diekan]

No actually I just laugh. It's not upsetting, it's funny... in a twisted and bizzar (sp) way.

[Gaazy]

Bizzare.

[Diekan]

yes

[kinghooter00]

Well just to let you guys Know, we just talked to the father and he is going to sign the papers. So in anycase, Diekan, you are misunderstanding everything. I'm not doing this to prove my love. I'm doing this because i want to and i love the child as my own.
You must be a misrable man, Diekan. I don't understand the seed that was planted inside your heart to make you hate women like you do. Maybe its a closet issue.
Come on out man.

[Diekan]

LOL.

I'll give it a year and you'll be divorced and paying out 3/4 of your pay check for a child you didn't father.

It's dumb fucks like you why women act the way they do.

[Xaiveir]

Well just to let you guys Know, we just talked to the father and he is going to sign the papers. So in anycase, Diekan, you are misunderstanding everything. I'm not doing this to prove my love. I'm doing this because i want to and i love the child as my own.
You must be a misrable man, Diekan. I don't understand the seed that was planted inside your heart to make you hate women like you do. Maybe its a closet issue.
Come on out man.

I hope it works out for you dude, I really do. Some of these situations work out for the better, and i hope yours is one of them.


if not....sucks to be you!

[kinghooter00]

Seriously though, Diekan, what happened to you??? Did you go through a divorce or Lose a chick a while back??? Whats your issue? People typically don't have this much conviction about something without a real good, personal reason.
I'm seriously asking you.

[kinghooter00]

LOL.

I'll give it a year and you'll be divorced and paying out 3/4 of your pay check for a child you didn't father.

It's dumb fucks like you why women act the way they do.

Still not answering the question, Diekan.

[Darcler]

psst, Diek. Triel is married.

[kinghooter00]

Wow, i can't believe you guys show this much interest into my well being considering how much of an ass you think i am. This could be in the hall of fame.

[Xaiveir]

Wow, i can't believe you guys show this much interest into my well being considering how much of an ass you think i am. This could be in the hall of fame.

No offense, but i doubt its because anyone really has that much "interest" in it, or you. Its more that there has not been a good "rant" thread in awhile, couple that with Diekans spiteful outlook on seemingly all women, and the fact that everyone on this board has a strong opinion, BOOM long thread.


It seems there needs to be at least 1 long thread a month where people call eachother fat, lazy, retarded etc . Its like winning the lottery, your thread was it...congrats.

[kinghooter00]

thanks.