Having a gf yet fantasizing about sex with other women

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Having a gf yet fantasizing about sex with other women

Postby Jay » Mon Mar 19, 2007 2:31 pm

I say it's normal for all guys to do that unless they're gay and they fantasize about other dudes or whatever.

SOMEONE says it's due to lack of satisfaction. I disagree.

Discuss.
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Postby araby » Mon Mar 19, 2007 2:32 pm

it is a lack of focus.
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Postby Jay » Mon Mar 19, 2007 2:37 pm

Now, I'm not talking about constant fixation. I'm talking like a quick passing thought or one that comes up every so often. Or like, when you see a hotty walk by and you're like omg wow.
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leah wrote:isn't the only difference the length? i feel like it would take too long to smoke something that long, ha.
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Postby araby » Mon Mar 19, 2007 2:39 pm

well, duh.
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Postby Tacks » Mon Mar 19, 2007 3:01 pm

If you're attracted enough to your SO there really isn't a reason to think about others. I guess it depends if you're in love or not.

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Postby Xaiveir » Mon Mar 19, 2007 3:16 pm

Tacks wrote:If you're attracted enough to your SO there really isn't a reason to think about others. I guess it depends if you're in love or not.

Just my opinion



I agree with Tacks here. If you are attracted to someone physically and mentally, you dont think about others.
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Postby Trielelvan » Mon Mar 19, 2007 3:16 pm

Even if you're in love, you are still going to have passing thoughts about sex with someone visually attractive, especially for men age 18-30. It's perfectly normal, and has jack and shit to do with satisfaction or love. It's simply lust. We are human. We lust.

That twilight blissful feeling of being "in love" only lingers for so long, and, during that period, there may not be any fantasizing, but eventually that time passes.

I'm plenty physically attracted to my husband, and I fantasize about having sex with other women all the time. =P
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Postby Tossica » Mon Mar 19, 2007 3:21 pm

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Postby Jay » Mon Mar 19, 2007 3:34 pm

Xaiveir wrote:
Tacks wrote:If you're attracted enough to your SO there really isn't a reason to think about others. I guess it depends if you're in love or not.

Just my opinion



I agree with Tacks here. If you are attracted to someone physically and mentally, you dont think about others.


I just don't see that. I'm with Triel on this one. For 1, I'm definately against cheating or deception of any nature in relationships but I think that fantasizing about other women is total reflex regardless of how committed you are. I also don't think there's anything wrong with it unless you act on those impulses behind their back.
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leah wrote:isn't the only difference the length? i feel like it would take too long to smoke something that long, ha.
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Postby Lionking » Mon Mar 19, 2007 3:37 pm

Trielelvan wrote:I'm plenty physically attracted to my husband, and I fantasize about having sex with other women all the time. =P


Why the hell isn't that your sig? :tagteam:
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Postby Tacks » Mon Mar 19, 2007 3:56 pm

I think it also has to do with how much sex drive you as a person have.
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Postby Jennay » Mon Mar 19, 2007 4:03 pm

It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home for supper
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Postby Naethyn » Mon Mar 19, 2007 4:10 pm

Jennay wrote:It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home for supper


Good answer
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Postby Spazz » Mon Mar 19, 2007 4:11 pm

Yea except everyone goes out to dinner all the time.
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Postby KaiineTN » Mon Mar 19, 2007 4:39 pm

I haven't gone out for dinner in ages >_<
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Postby Trielelvan » Mon Mar 19, 2007 4:40 pm

That's because you're gay.
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Postby Harrison » Mon Mar 19, 2007 5:01 pm

I never once thought of another woman even briefly with my last girlfriend. The ones before that I did, making me believe the difference is in me being in love or not.

I wasn't in love with the others.
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Postby Jazendar » Mon Mar 19, 2007 5:09 pm

My situation has been the same. I've had committment problems most of my dating years, I was with one for quite a while and not once in any point did I fantasize about another women. Strange at the time I thought, whether it was Love or not i'm not sure. But I do now with my current one, I would never act upon it ofcourse, but it happens.
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Postby Tuggan » Mon Mar 19, 2007 5:11 pm

I would have to say your cock and balls have fallen off if you see somethin smokin hot walk by and don't think to yourself how much fun that might be.
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Postby Jazendar » Mon Mar 19, 2007 5:16 pm

Not if your cock and balls are 10 with that smokin hotty. With brains too. :O
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Postby Tossica » Mon Mar 19, 2007 5:49 pm

Attention all full of shit guys.

Are you saying that if you are in a relationship you don't jerk off or if you do jerk off, you are thinking only of your girlfriend while you do it?

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Postby Jazendar » Mon Mar 19, 2007 5:58 pm

I didn't jerk off once when I was with this girl, so I suppose that refutes your point~
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Postby Tossica » Mon Mar 19, 2007 6:00 pm

Jazendar wrote:I didn't jerk off once when I was with this girl, so I suppose that refutes your point~



No, it makes you a liar, liar.
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Postby Dylan » Mon Mar 19, 2007 6:23 pm

Tossica wrote:Attention all full of shit guys.

Are you saying that if you are in a relationship you don't jerk off or if you do jerk off, you are thinking only of your girlfriend while you do it?

LAFF

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No shit, this is the biggest pile of lying shit thread since Fijian roommate.
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Postby Harrison » Mon Mar 19, 2007 6:34 pm

Didn't think that was included, thought it was in reference to passing women when out and about.
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