The Starter Husband

[Lyion]

Wow... just.. wow...

Part of the article:

Andi takes a throaty slug of her second raspberry martini, picks at her fish taco, then sits back in her chair. "I think marriage is the new dating and having kids is the new marriage," she proclaims loudly, as yet another woman dining with her partner turns to stare. "It's true. I wouldn't have married him if I didn't think I could get out of it...."

Of course, our generation can afford to chuck the Cinderella story when the glass slipper doesn't fit. While our grandmothers were forced to remain shackled to unhappy unions for monetary reasons, most women today have the financial wherewithal to cry uncle and bolt whenever we get uncomfortable.

For some, a starter husband is like a starter home — a semi-commitment where you're willing to do some of the surface work, like painting the walls, but not the heavy lifting, like gutting the whole foundation; he's just not a long-term investment. Others compare a starter husband to a first job, where you learn some skills and polish your resume before going after the position you really want....

It's easy to write these women off as callous or self-absorbed. And yet on some level, they just might be pioneers [my emphasis]: Why stay put in an empty shell of a marriage — an arrangement on paper only — instead of calling it what it is? "This generation is reinventing marriage," says Paul.

[Tikker]

and then women wonder why men won't commit to them later

[Martrae]

No one else snickered at the fish taco?

I'm sure there are women out there like that, however, you only had to read the article to realize that most other women disapprove and are shocked by such an attitude.

and yet women are actually swiveling in their seats, doing indiscreet 180s to get a look at the impeccably coiffed, blonde-haired woman saying such things.

That's not approval or even appreciation...that's definitely not agreeing one iota.

Don't taint all women with this psycho's look on life and marriage.

[Gypsiyee]

It's so sad to me that there's anyone who thinks that way =\ when it notes how she was thinking 'he must think I'm a monster' - I just can't imagine why someone would think she wasn't.

I mean I've screwed up in my life and hurt people, regretfully.. but marriage is a whole different ballgame.

[Tikker]

I don't think the article is as completely inaccurate as you think

[Lyion]

I don't think the article is as completely inaccurate as you think

I don't either. I see more and more truth in it...

[Gypsiyee]

I tend to agree there - it's unfortunate, but I'd say it's the norm for a lot of women (though I will note it's not just women..) to not hold much value in marriage or fidelity in general.

It still makes me pretty sad, though.

[Lyion]

Even better than the starter husband is the retread wife affair... lolzer

http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/s ... 95,00.html
Online couple cheated with each other
By staff writers

September 18, 2007 12:00am

A married couple who didn't realise they were chatting each other up on the internet are divorcing.
Sana Klaric and husband Adnan, who used the names "Sweetie" and "Prince of Joy" in an online chatroom, spent hours telling each other about their marriage troubles, Metro.co.uk reported.

The truth emerged when the two turned up for a date. Now the pair, from Zenica in central Bosnia, are divorcing after accusing each other of being unfaithful.

"I was suddenly in love. It was amazing. We seemed to be stuck in the same kind of miserable marriage. How right that turned out to be," Sana, 27, said.

Adnan, 32, said: "I still find it hard to believe that Sweetie, who wrote such wonderful things, is actually the same woman I married and who has not said a nice word to me for years".