leah wrote:short version: i found out boy has been fucking my (now ex-)best friend for who knows how long -- but suffice to say it was *during* our efforts to save the marriage.
*shittyness*
I'm so sorry you have to go through that shitstorm. Jesus christ. Divorce is bad enough. Betrayal on top of that is a bitch.
Seems like you have the right idea going forward though and when you're able to bring all the issues to light you're gonna feel a huge sense of relief and begin healing. Just hang in there and lean on the people closest to you.
<3 thank you Jay. i will say, one positive side effect has been sucking the poisonous ex-bf out of the wound that is my life and healing it with the generous, compassionate, beautiful souls who are my closest friends. they rushed in to encircle me and haven't let me fall, even when i feel close to the edge.
I'll never forget the moment I opened up my ex's Facebook for the first time ever and saw what was going on. I'm sorry you had to go through the same thing
My ex didn't even bother with counseling. By then, she'd already given up completely and started something with The Vulture.
Now I just plot how to dismantle someone's life legally.
How do you like this spoiler, motherfucker? -Lyion
Leah, I can't say I know how you feel per-say but I sure has fuck have some really good ideas the emotions you're going through. Trust in men, opening your heart for more hurt, being yourself and unguarded will be a long time coming. One thing I regret in my working through the issues was not working harder to retain some of the friends I could have. Family is great and all but sometimes the level of honesty needed, only a friend can play that part for you. It is great to hear you have that (I wish I would have :P)
ClakarEQ wrote:Leah, I can't say I know how you feel per-say but I sure has fuck have some really good ideas the emotions you're going through. Trust in men, opening your heart for more hurt, being yourself and unguarded will be a long time coming. One thing I regret in my working through the issues was not working harder to retain some of the friends I could have. Family is great and all but sometimes the level of honesty needed, only a friend can play that part for you. It is great to hear you have that (I wish I would have :P)
you know, i agree with you on the trust issues. but it just isn't true to who i am to not let myself be open to possibilities and seeing what life could bring me next. my goal throughout this whole disentangling process has been to maintain the things that make me who i am: openness, honesty, realness, empathy, my ability to relate to others and let down my walls. the truth is, i feel more like myself now than i have in years, and i'm better able to see the value i bring to the table. but, i'm definitely not immune to thinking i'll be alone forever, or to questioning everyone's motives, or to putting up my defenses.
Drem wrote:Damn Leah, I don't even know what to say
I feel bad for you and Josh. Wish we all lived near each other so I could buy y'all a few rounds
lol for a second i thought you meant my Josh (or ex-Josh i guess, ha) and i was like "whyyyy would you feel bad for him" hahaha. FIGURED IT OUT.
anyway. thank you. i wish that, too, on a regular basis. we all need to get fucked up together some night. maybe everyone should just fly in to nebraska for an epic weekend of debauchery?
someone said he crashed and died i think? i never checked into it but i'm sure there would've been something in the news about an omaha pilot dying in a plane crash
brinstar wrote:someone said he crashed and died i think? i never checked into it but i'm sure there would've been something in the news about an omaha pilot dying in a plane crash
what! nuh uh!
why did i think he was canadian? probably the name i guess.
harriwin, are there trains? train travel can be fun.
