Life updates

[Tossica]

Got signed to a label. My first ever published song comes out next month. I have a 4trk EP following up soon. This is far from my favorite tune but the label boss insisted we use this one. He must hear something I don't. It's track B1.

http://www.groovedis.com/shop/groovedis.com/doftd5.html

[brinstar]

i expect a signed copy in my mailbox before the end of the month

[brinstar]

not for free i mean

willing to trade a tape of my chamber prog band's album if i can find one

[Drem]

Congrats bro! Put it on iTunes so I can buy it plz

[Jay]

So my neighbor's condo burned down. She's upstairs from me. That means my building is condemned and all my belongings are fucked since my unit flooded from the firefighting. I'm looking at being displaced for 3-6 months so I moved back into my house with my ex wife and the kids lol. Oddly enough, things are going great. We had a plan to move back in together and focus on our relationship when the kids were gonna be gone for the summer with gramps but I guess now is as good a time as any lol.

[Tossica]

So my neighbor's condo burned down. She's upstairs from me. That means my building is condemned and all my belongings are fucked since my unit flooded from the firefighting. I'm looking at being displaced for 3-6 months so I moved back into my house with my ex wife and the kids lol. Oddly enough, things are going great. We had a plan to move back in together and focus on our relationship when the kids were gonna be gone for the summer with gramps but I guess now is as good a time as any lol.

Whoa. Damn, dude.

[Tossica]

My record dropped yesterday. I'm Midnight Music Club.

No digital release on this one. Buy the vinyl and rip it!

http://www.juno.co.uk/products/from-chi ... 639797-01/

[Drem]

Just ordered one. Congrats again!

[10sun]

VW TDI Buyback went through.
Buying Go-Fast stuff for my BMW 535 Wagon.
Planning a two week Iceland trip with my wife.
That is all the big news for me lately.

[Jay]

So from the fire, most of my belongings are ok. I used a company called Servpro to pack my stuff up and clean out the smoke smell and water damage. It was successful. This whole fire situation turned out to be a blessing in disguise. I get a free remodel, and all of my belongings that smoke touched are considered ruined even if they are working totally fine. That means I get a salvage value settlement from each individual item based on depreciation, but due to a no depreciation clause in my insurance and if I choose to replace the item I get full retail value as if I bought it day 1. I asked my adjuster if I replaced my item to claim the full value rather than the salvage value then I decided to return the item is that illegal? I want to avoid fraud. Also, if my stuff that I'm replacing is still totally fine does it still get covered. My adjuster told me that if smoke touched it it's ruined. If I'm able to salvage it and use it despite "damages" then it's mine to keep and after I replace an item and receive full value rather than salvage value, that concludes all business with that item and they no longer care what I do with the item, which means I can return it if I want.

So yeah my net worth about to go up like 25%

[10sun]

I started tuning my BMW wagon.
380whp/400 lb/ft on 93octane.
440whp/470lb/ft on 50% E85.

Booked flight, rental car, and AirBNBs for a trip to Iceland in June.

[leah]

josh moved out on saturday.

since then, every single sound i hear in my house = someone coming in to murder me. sleep has been... evasive.

[brinstar]

Iceland

nice, iceland is tops on my list of "places to defect to"

been spending almost all my free time on a handful of different things:

• founded the climate caucus within the nebraska democratic party
• still super active within citizens' climate lobby, going to the national conference in DC this june
• tried to get my boy lou through the at-large city council primary but he didn't make the cut
• working like mad to make the lincoln iteration of the people's climate march a huge success
• involved in the creation of a lincoln chapter of democratic socialists of america
• main band decided to forge ahead without a bassist, so i did like 40% of the work involved in programming backing tracks into my macbook to play along to live (which was quite a chore) - now involved in "gluing together" all the tracks into one fluid stage presentation complete with sync'd light show
• writing new music for second band
• learning how to make birdhouses
• keeping up on agents of shield, brooklyn-99, gotham, and iron fist
• tickling my own balls

[Jay]

josh moved out on saturday.

since then, every single sound i hear in my house = someone coming in to murder me. sleep has been... evasive.

If I remember correctly, you found out about him and your ex besty but chose to keep quiet about it for a moment to tie up some other issues or something? How'd that all go down that led to him moving out? Did you tell him you found out?

[Drem]

I started tuning my BMW wagon.
380whp/400 lb/ft on 93octane.
440whp/470lb/ft on 50% E85.

Booked flight, rental car, and AirBNBs for a trip to Iceland in June.

I sold my 14 Charger SXT and got a 15 Outback 3.6r. The nicer one with the v6. It's nowhere near that HP, just 256 / 247lb stock. But I want the flat 6 boxer-style engine because I plan to offroad with it and partially submerge it if I have to and that affords me a little more clearance. And X-Mode/hill descent combo sold me. It can offroad like a Raptor. Gonna see what options I have but imagine will start with CAI, different exhaust, a slight lift, and a chip if I can. I wanted to do all that (minus the lift) with the Charger but I just wasn't in love with it enough to do it. The Outback is loaded like our 16 Lexus RX350 tho and has all the same features from perforated leather to crosstraffic backup alerts. only thing it lacks is radar cruise control. It even came with a badass tow hitch the previous owner put on it. Can't wait to juice it up

Wagon bros

[leah]

josh moved out on saturday.

since then, every single sound i hear in my house = someone coming in to murder me. sleep has been... evasive.

If I remember correctly, you found out about him and your ex besty but chose to keep quiet about it for a moment to tie up some other issues or something? How'd that all go down that led to him moving out? Did you tell him you found out?

well, since we were splitting up regardless he would've eventually moved out no matter what. but yes, as a matter of fact, i did end up confronting him! one night he just kept needling me about how i always seem so mad at him and finally i'm like OK YES I AM MAD AT YOU DO YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHY and he did... so i told him i had read their messages and knew he'd been fucking around on me for a very long time and what did he have to say for himself? and rather than own up to it or apologize or at least seem ashamed, he instead got super pissed at me for violating his privacy (something i had owned up to and apologized for WHILE CONFRONTING HIM) and refused to ever acknowledge or talk about said bestie situation, even to this day. all this went down on like february 3, and here we are about to begin may and he still hasn't owned up to a thing. super mature.

fun side note: apparently he called one of our mutual good friends this week to yell at him for talking to me about our situation and for telling me that josh was emotionally abusive. guess how he knew about this conversation? HE READ MY SLACK MESSAGES WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE. fucking hypocrite.

despite all this, i remain resolute in my decision to try to keep things as peaceful and civil as possible because i don't want to alienate or lose our mutual friends. plus despite all reason, i do still love him very much even though i would like to remove his genitals with a rusty spoon.

[Jay]

josh moved out on saturday.

since then, every single sound i hear in my house = someone coming in to murder me. sleep has been... evasive.

If I remember correctly, you found out about him and your ex besty but chose to keep quiet about it for a moment to tie up some other issues or something? How'd that all go down that led to him moving out? Did you tell him you found out?

well, since we were splitting up regardless he would've eventually moved out no matter what. but yes, as a matter of fact, i did end up confronting him! one night he just kept needling me about how i always seem so mad at him and finally i'm like OK YES I AM MAD AT YOU DO YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHY and he did... so i told him i had read their messages and knew he'd been fucking around on me for a very long time and what did he have to say for himself? and rather than own up to it or apologize or at least seem ashamed, he instead got super pissed at me for violating his privacy (something i had owned up to and apologized for WHILE CONFRONTING HIM) and refused to ever acknowledge or talk about said bestie situation, even to this day. all this went down on like february 3, and here we are about to begin may and he still hasn't owned up to a thing. super mature.

fun side note: apparently he called one of our mutual good friends this week to yell at him for talking to me about our situation and for telling me that josh was emotionally abusive. guess how he knew about this conversation? HE READ MY SLACK MESSAGES WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE. fucking hypocrite.

despite all this, i remain resolute in my decision to try to keep things as peaceful and civil as possible because i don't want to alienate or lose our mutual friends. plus despite all reason, i do still love him very much even though i would like to remove his genitals with a rusty spoon.

Nothing as bad as what you went through happened between me and my wife but I understand the feeling of loving someone despite the hell they are putting you through. The pro and con list will make it perfectly reasonable for you to hate them but there is still a part of that person you fell in love with in there somewhere and it sucks to let that go no matter what they did. I do think that you're handling your situation a lot more maturely than I did. You're gonna be just fine and happy again sooner rather than later because of how you are handling things.

[leah]

Nothing as bad as what you went through happened between me and my wife but I understand the feeling of loving someone despite the hell they are putting you through. The pro and con list will make it perfectly reasonable for you to hate them but there is still a part of that person you fell in love with in there somewhere and it sucks to let that go no matter what they did. I do think that you're handling your situation a lot more maturely than I did. You're gonna be just fine and happy again sooner rather than later because of how you are handling things.

thanks man <3 that means a lot because i'm trying really, really hard to consistently take the high road but he makes it really difficult sometimes. but i guess that's why my therapist is rolling in the dough right now, because she's keeping me afloat. well, her + my closest girlfriends + my family. <3 <3

[10sun]

I started tuning my BMW wagon.
380whp/400 lb/ft on 93octane.
440whp/470lb/ft on 50% E85.

Booked flight, rental car, and AirBNBs for a trip to Iceland in June.

I sold my 14 Charger SXT and got a 15 Outback 3.6r. The nicer one with the v6. It's nowhere near that HP, just 256 / 247lb stock. But I want the flat 6 boxer-style engine because I plan to offroad with it and partially submerge it if I have to and that affords me a little more clearance. And X-Mode/hill descent combo sold me. It can offroad like a Raptor. Gonna see what options I have but imagine will start with CAI, different exhaust, a slight lift, and a chip if I can. I wanted to do all that (minus the lift) with the Charger but I just wasn't in love with it enough to do it. The Outback is loaded like our 16 Lexus RX350 tho and has all the same features from perforated leather to crosstraffic backup alerts. only thing it lacks is radar cruise control. It even came with a badass tow hitch the previous owner put on it. Can't wait to juice it up

Wagon bros

Nice man! Wagon life!
Call yours an H6, not a V6. Mine is an I6, not a V6.
They are peppy wagons and I like them.
Chipping it probably won't net a whole lot.
You want the offroader anyways and don't need that headache.
I'd watch the CAI if you plan on doing any water fording... that is a recipe for disaster.
You can lift the older Outbacks pretty easy, I'm not certain on the newer ones.
I've been looking at replacing my rear bumper on my wagon, but only so I can upgrade the exhaust on mine with a cross over quad tail (M5 style). No tow hitch in my future though. It is my boy racer toy.

My wife ended up getting a 4Runner last fall. It is an older base model with cloth interior etc etc etc. She loves it.
I picked up an X5 last fall too. It is my winter beater/spare car/the car she drives when she wants comfort.

[Drem]

Good points. Exhaust is gonna be first. And off-road tires. It came with a Toyo touring set. All I can hear in this car is the engine. The exhaust has resonators just like the Charger did, damped to all hell. It has no exhaust note at all really. The engine sounds fun tho. Sounds like a rally car but without exhaust, which sucks. The Charger V6 VVT was whiny

It's got a little pep for what it is and paddle shifters make winding mountain roads really fun so far, but it's still a CVT at the end of the day. And honestly I'm always stuck behind someone going 10mph below the limit anyway (especially on those mountain roads) so who cares. It's really almost exactly like the RX350 but you sit lower to the ground even tho clearance is the same. Great car for the fam/my hobbies as I feel bad when I get the Lex dirty

[Harrison]

I finally paid off some more of tuition I owed and I'm prepped to go back this fall finally after life kept fucking me in my ass.

One of my best friends died a couple weeks ago. One of the types of best friends you've had since 7th grade and a member of the family sort. Very close to the entire family, all the brothers, sisters, cousins, grandparents, everyone. It's been almost as rough as losing my own brother. (Honestly feels the exact same)

I got a massive ear infection about the same time he died (wtf?) and I've been deaf in my right ear since. Just a massive annoyance that's worrying me because I'm done with the antibiotics.

My ex and I have been...doing well. I feel like I'm setting myself up for failure again, though. She's exhibiting signs of always looking for the exit. We've been sleeping together, hanging out, not fighting, and things have been really great. I don't know why she insists on ruining this. "Trying to take it day by day" coupled with, "we have problems that are still problems blah blah blah" is trying my patience and sanity. After all, she's the one who fucking cheated on me, and I'm the one who's being accepting of that and willing to push forward.

rant over, just trying to get my life back together still and it's been utter shit almost nonstop

[10sun]

Good points. Exhaust is gonna be first. And off-road tires. It came with a Toyo touring set. All I can hear in this car is the engine. The exhaust has resonators just like the Charger did, damped to all hell. It has no exhaust note at all really. The engine sounds fun tho. Sounds like a rally car but without exhaust, which sucks. The Charger V6 VVT was whiny

It's got a little pep for what it is and paddle shifters make winding mountain roads really fun so far, but it's still a CVT at the end of the day. And honestly I'm always stuck behind someone going 10mph below the limit anyway (especially on those mountain roads) so who cares. It's really almost exactly like the RX350 but you sit lower to the ground even tho clearance is the same. Great car for the fam/my hobbies as I feel bad when I get the Lex dirty

I swapped out my airbox in my wagon for a dual cone intake and I am removing the liner from the hood.
It looks like:
http://www.e90post.com/forums/attachmen ... 1362552344
It really changes the intake note which I enjoy.

Josh, watch your heart.
Leah, glad to hear you are moving on. Don't make yourself responsible for his mistakes.

[leah]

I finally paid off some more of tuition I owed and I'm prepped to go back this fall finally after life kept fucking me in my ass.

One of my best friends died a couple weeks ago. One of the types of best friends you've had since 7th grade and a member of the family sort. Very close to the entire family, all the brothers, sisters, cousins, grandparents, everyone. It's been almost as rough as losing my own brother. (Honestly feels the exact same)

I got a massive ear infection about the same time he died (wtf?) and I've been deaf in my right ear since. Just a massive annoyance that's worrying me because I'm done with the antibiotics.

My ex and I have been...doing well. I feel like I'm setting myself up for failure again, though. She's exhibiting signs of always looking for the exit. We've been sleeping together, hanging out, not fighting, and things have been really great. I don't know why she insists on ruining this. "Trying to take it day by day" coupled with, "we have problems that are still problems blah blah blah" is trying my patience and sanity. After all, she's the one who fucking cheated on me, and I'm the one who's being accepting of that and willing to push forward.

rant over, just trying to get my life back together still and it's been utter shit almost nonstop

really, really sorry to hear about your friend. </3 and i hope you keep seeing a doctor about your hearing?? that's awful.

as far as you and the lady go... like 10sun said, watch your heart. and if you guys really, truly want to give it a go but she's worried about these "problems that are still problems," y'all should consider talking to a counselor. i know my marriage failed so perhaps my recommendations are not exactly the most trustworthy, but i can't say enough how much of a difference it made to have leslie help us through our stuff, even if ultimately we couldn't make it work together. even shitbag was making big strides in some things that had been holding him back for a long time. just think about it. it's worth the expense, especially if this relationship means as much to you as it seems to.

[Harrison]

No, she gave up already. Things were going well, so naturally she had to just ruin it. (Without actually informing me she already made the decision.)

I had to directly call her out. She was just going to keep stringing me along.

[leah]

time to move on, friend. focus on being the best YOU you can be. everything else will fall into place eventually.