How would you feel if your kid came out?

Jay · Post by **Jay** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 1:34 pm

Friend of mine asked me this and I've asked a few people and always seem to get interesting answers.

My answer was that honestly it'd probably be my worst nightmare. That might sound very bigottish but that's how I would feel. I might literally cry and I would be very unhappy about it but of course I'd still love my kid. I'd just be not too happy with him and I'd want to kill whoever introduced him to dick.

Why? I dunno really. I feel like if my kid ends up gay somehow I fucked up or didn't raise him well enough for him to be a man.

Ginzburgh · Post by **Ginzburgh** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 1:38 pm

I could care less so long as their not assholes.

Xaiveir · Post by **Xaiveir** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 1:38 pm

Jay wrote:Friend of mine asked me this and I've asked a few people and always seem to get interesting answers.

My answer was that honestly it'd probably be my worst nightmare. That might sound very bigottish but that's how I would feel. I might literally cry and I would be very unhappy about it but of course I'd still love my kid. I'd just be not too happy with him and I'd want to kill whoever introduced him to dick.

Why? I dunno really. I feel like if my kid ends up gay somehow I fucked up or didn't raise him well enough for him to be a man.

Figuring out all the possible actions, and emotions that may come from your parents when you tell them tonight eh?

Gaazy · Post by **Gaazy** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 1:45 pm

Call me a close-minded fuck or whatever, but I would probably try to slap the queer out him him at first. I would still love him because he's my son for gods sake, but I wouldnt look at him the same ever again.

I dont really have anything against queers I guess as long as they keep that shit away from me. If they want to be gay and have cocks in their mouth, whatever, more power to them, we're free, just dont try to tell me about that shit.

I REALLY hate when they walk around holding hands and sucking each others faces off in public, but then again, I hate seeing a fucking girl and a guy doing it too.

Ginzburgh · Post by **Ginzburgh** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:02 pm

I guess your opinion on the subject all depends on where you were brought up and by who. I was raised in connecticut by fairly liberal parents, so...that's why I could give a shit less.

That and I have gay friends, they're great people. :dunno:

Post by **Tossica** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:05 pm

Gaazy has a bunch of gay friends too he just doesn't know it.

Ginzburgh · Post by **Ginzburgh** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:10 pm

Call me a close-minded fuck or whatever, but I would probably try to slap the queer out him him at first.

And I think it's physically impossible to "slap the queer" out of someone. Chances are, you'd probably just make his life worse.

Post by **Lyion** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:33 pm

It happened to Anne Heche!

kaharthemad · Post by **kaharthemad** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:34 pm

Ginzburgh wrote:
Call me a close-minded fuck or whatever, but I would probably try to slap the queer out him him at first.

And I think it's physically impossible to "slap the queer" out of someone. Chances are, you'd probably just make his life worse.

Ginz is right...but you have coined a new phrase.

"He was pestering me so I intend to 'Slap the Queer out of him*'"

*Slap the Queer out of him' is a trademark of Gaazy and may only be used with the consent of the owner, or in approved forum topics...All rights reserved.

Ginzburgh · Post by **Ginzburgh** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:37 pm

It happened to Anne Heche!

I think it's different with lesbians. I have three lesbian friends who switched teams. When I asked one of them "why" her response was..."sometimes you just need a cock".

Haylo · Post by **Haylo** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:38 pm

On this note do people feel differently regarding female children? I've always wondered if parents that react strongly to a male child being gay would react as strongly to a female child being a lesbian.

Personally if I ever had a son who told me he was gay, I would feel sad initially, not because it disappoints me but just because I know that their life will be that much more difficult. Conversely if I had a daughter who announced that they were a lesbian, i'm not sure that I would feel as strongly.

I know gay and lesbian couples and hands down the gay couples have it tougher. Other parents don't let their children play at their house, they face public scorn whenever they are out together, things of that nature. On the other hand the lesbian couples that I know don't really face much public scorn, at least not overt in the face stuff like the male couples do.

Ginzburgh · Post by **Ginzburgh** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:39 pm

Everyone likes the pussy. :dunno:

Trielelvan · Post by **Trielelvan** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:41 pm

Haylo beat me to it, but I'm saying it anyway...

Why is it always assumed that "if your kid comes out to you" that it's a boy we're dealing with, and why is there such atrocity associated with it? What if it's a girl? Would you be just as unhappy? Would you care as bad? Or is it not as bad because watching 2 girls kiss is hot stuff? Oy....

You can't "slap the queer" out of anyone Gaazy. They are born that way. No one had to introduce him to dick or her to pussy - what you feel between your loins when you see a smoking hot chick... that's what junior feels when he sees an incredibly hot guy. You can't force change someone's sexuality, any moreso than someone could teach you to love getting assfucked by another guy.

Oh, and to answer the question - I don't care if they are homo, hetero, or pan. I will be happy as long as they are decent, compassionate human beings that play by the golden rule.

Gaazy · Post by **Gaazy** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:48 pm

Tell me this too~ What is it with being a faggot makes people want to be feminine and act like a fucking girl? I know 3 guys in high school who were normal, acted like guys, whatever. Now that they have come out and said they like to throat cock, they all of the sudden act like girls. All 3 of them COMPLETELY changed how they act, walk, talk, everything, within the past couple years. So waking up one day and saying "i like cock" automatically makes you want to shove your dick between your legs and prance around? Queers wouldnt be as big of a deal to me if they didnt do that shit. Is that the cliche' that if you are gay you have to act like that?

And not saying all queers act like that. I know a gay guy who came out a while back and acts the same as he always has, and I have no problem with him like I said as long as he doesnt bring that side of the fence around me. I just dont understand what being gay has to be with being a feminine priss :dunno:

runamonk · Post by **runamonk** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:50 pm

Doesn't matter much to me either way. It doesn't affect my life in anyway other than I probably wouldn't be getting any grandchildren. Other than that, why would I care? I don't have to watch them having sex or anything like that.

runamonk · Post by **runamonk** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:52 pm

Ginzburgh wrote:I guess your opinion on the subject all depends on where you were brought up and by who. I was raised in connecticut by fairly liberal parents, so...that's why I could give a shit less.

That and I have gay friends, they're great people.

Not necessarily, I have a family of redneck racists for the most part and I don't believe in any of that and attribute most of it to ignorance. My mom is semi-racist and my father was totally 100% racist. I however could give two shits about what color you are.

Post by **Tossica** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:54 pm

Gaazy wrote:Tell me this too~ What is it with being a faggot makes people want to be feminine and act like a fucking girl? I know 3 guys in high school who were normal, acted like guys, whatever. Now that they have come out and said they like to throat cock, they all of the sudden act like girls. All 3 of them COMPLETELY changed how they act, walk, talk, everything, within the past couple years. So waking up one day and saying "i like cock" automatically makes you want to shove your dick between your legs and prance around? Queers wouldnt be as big of a deal to me if they didnt do that shit. Is that the cliche' that if you are gay you have to act like that?

And not saying all queers act like that. I know a gay guy who came out a while back and acts the same as he always has, and I have no problem with him like I said as long as he doesnt bring that side of the fence around me. I just dont understand what being gay has to be with being a feminine priss

While there are a lot of feminine queers there are just as many if not more overly masculine queers. I think you probably just notice the fems more because they are so flaming.

runamonk · Post by **runamonk** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:57 pm

Gaazy wrote:Tell me this too~ What is it with being a faggot makes people want to be feminine and act like a fucking girl? I know 3 guys in high school who were normal, acted like guys, whatever. Now that they have come out and said they like to throat cock, they all of the sudden act like girls. All 3 of them COMPLETELY changed how they act, walk, talk, everything, within the past couple years. So waking up one day and saying "i like cock" automatically makes you want to shove your dick between your legs and prance around? Queers wouldnt be as big of a deal to me if they didnt do that shit. Is that the cliche' that if you are gay you have to act like that?

And not saying all queers act like that. I know a gay guy who came out a while back and acts the same as he always has, and I have no problem with him like I said as long as he doesnt bring that side of the fence around me. I just dont understand what being gay has to be with being a feminine priss

I don't understand this either. On the other hand I've met plenty of guys who were/are effeminent and are actually gay. I've also met guys who are totally butch typical guys and you would never know they are gay unless they told you ie MOP. sigh.

In fact I have a half brother I haven't seen or talked too since I was a kid but he was very effeminent, I don't know if he was gay or not but he was raised strictly by women.

Trielelvan · Post by **Trielelvan** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:59 pm

Gaazy wrote:Tell me this too~ What is it with being a faggot makes people want to be feminine and act like a fucking girl? I know 3 guys in high school who were normal, acted like guys, whatever. Now that they have come out and said they like to throat cock, they all of the sudden act like girls. All 3 of them COMPLETELY changed how they act, walk, talk, everything, within the past couple years. So waking up one day and saying "i like cock" automatically makes you want to shove your dick between your legs and prance around? Queers wouldnt be as big of a deal to me if they didnt do that shit. Is that the cliche' that if you are gay you have to act like that?

And not saying all queers act like that. I know a gay guy who came out a while back and acts the same as he always has, and I have no problem with him like I said as long as he doesnt bring that side of the fence around me. I just dont understand what being gay has to be with being a feminine priss

Did you ever stop to think that maybe the "normal" guy stuff back in highschool was an act itself??? That they were acting the way they were expected to? They way everyone else expected them to? Yes, many gay men are effeminate, but then there's a number of straight men like that too, though not to the extreme some gays flame-on. It's just how they're built. Why do some jocks act like egotistical testosterone junkie uber-masculine jackfucks? Because that's how they're built. Not all of them act like that though. Like Toss said - you think there are more of them because you notice it more. That's all.

runamonk · Post by **runamonk** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 3:01 pm

Trielelvan wrote:
Gaazy wrote:Tell me this too~ What is it with being a faggot makes people want to be feminine and act like a fucking girl? I know 3 guys in high school who were normal, acted like guys, whatever. Now that they have come out and said they like to throat cock, they all of the sudden act like girls. All 3 of them COMPLETELY changed how they act, walk, talk, everything, within the past couple years. So waking up one day and saying "i like cock" automatically makes you want to shove your dick between your legs and prance around? Queers wouldnt be as big of a deal to me if they didnt do that shit. Is that the cliche' that if you are gay you have to act like that?

And not saying all queers act like that. I know a gay guy who came out a while back and acts the same as he always has, and I have no problem with him like I said as long as he doesnt bring that side of the fence around me. I just dont understand what being gay has to be with being a feminine priss

Did you ever stop to think that maybe, just maybe, the "normal" guy stuff back in highschool was an act itself??? That they were acting the way they were expected to? They way everyone else expected them to? Yes, many gay men are effeminate, but then there's a number of straight men like that too, though not to the extreme some gays flame-on. It's just how they're built. Why do some jocks act like egotistical testosterone junkie uber-masculine jackfucks? Because that's how they're built. Not all of them act like that though. Like Toss said - you think there are more of them because you notice it more. That's all.

Very good point Triel, I hadn't thought of it that way. You're probably right about it being an act, honestly if I were gay the last thing I would want to do is act effeminent , god forbid you should appear weak in school, the kids will tear you up.

Gaazy · Post by **Gaazy** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 3:20 pm

I used to fuck some ugly girl on the softball team when I was in college, I know a lot of butch dykes too that were her friends~ There was even a porno going around of 5 or 6 of the softball man girls going at it.

And yes, obviously it was an act. I guess I didnt spell it out word for word in the post, but I my point was 3 seems like a lot of people to be putting on a complete act. I cant for another 10 or 20 years to go by and see who else turns out to be queer~

Trielelvan · Post by **Trielelvan** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 3:33 pm

Gaazy wrote:And yes, obviously it was an act. I guess I didnt spell it out word for word in the post, but I my point was 3 seems like a lot of people to be putting on a complete act. I cant for another 10 or 20 years to go by and see who else turns out to be queer~

Ok, sorry - from the way you worded it, I thought you meant that what was previous was "normal" with the later effeminacy after coming out being the "act."
3 really isn't that many when you consider the alternative - how badly would one of the guys have gotten it had they allowed their true nature to show while in school?

araby · Post by **araby** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 3:43 pm

I would feel nothing different and would be proud, loving and supportive, just like I am now.

Dylan · Post by **Dylan** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 5:46 pm

I wouldn't care at all, in fact I'd probably be happy about it, considering if it was my son then I'd know he wouldn't knock up some chick and ruin his life. And if I had a daughter then I'd know she wouldn't get knocked up by some dumbass. Its a win/win situation.

Spazz · Post by **Spazz** » Thu Jun 07, 2007 6:53 pm

how did your coming out go ?

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