Talk Sarthis Out of Getting Married

Ginzburgh · Post by **Ginzburgh** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:43 pm

For God sakes man, you're only 22.

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:44 pm

If he is only getting engaged and waiting a few years I see no problem with this.

I mean it's the cool thing to do, marry and then divorce.

Ginzburgh · Post by **Ginzburgh** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:46 pm

But the divorce will hurt him more considering he is the man and the man is obviously the sole bread winner.

Sarthis · Post by **Sarthis** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:46 pm

Which is a fairly normal age to enter in to a long engagement. I don't exactly want to be having kids after I'm 30, and I don't want my entire married life to be saddled with kids. I've loved her for nearly a decade now, and I really have no qualms about this.

Sarthis · Post by **Sarthis** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:47 pm

and I'm not going to be the sole bread winner, I wouldn't actually be surprised if she ends up out earning me.

Ginzburgh · Post by **Ginzburgh** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:49 pm

I don't know man...

I hear the dating scene is pretty good in the low 30s. At that age you're confident, have a little money in your pocket and the girls are down to party baby.

Lyion, what say you!?

veeneedefeesh · Post by **veeneedefeesh** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:51 pm

Women should earn more than men, they spend more as a general rule why shouldnt they earn their keep? And since the whole barefoot and pregnant thing is no longer PC they need to have some use.

Seriously dude, Marriage is the kiss of death, the death of your social life, the death of your sex life, the death of any dreams you may still harbor, trust me, shack up until she turns 40 then trade her in for two twenty's

Darcler · Post by **Darcler** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:51 pm

lol Sarth, dont defend your relationship, it makes you come off as weak and insecure, as anyone does who needs to defend their real lives.
Take Harrison for example. Or Mindia.

Love you Harri <3

DONT DO IT

Post by **Lyion** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:59 pm

Sarthis wrote:Which is a fairly normal age to enter in to a long engagement. I don't exactly want to be having kids after I'm 30, and I don't want my entire married life to be saddled with kids. I've loved her for nearly a decade now, and I really have no qualms about this.

Buy her a ring and don't look back.

Ginz, some people don't need to Vonkinate in their 20s.

Foutty · Post by **Foutty** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:02 pm

I'm not going to try to talk anyone out of getting married, but the dating scene in the low 30's (I'm 32) is outstanding. Less games, more quality, zero pressure.

I could never see myself married again...or even living with a woman.

Darcler · Post by **Darcler** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:03 pm

Are you going to get a lot of cats?

Post by **Gidan** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:05 pm

Go for it man, dont let people talk you out of it. You know where you are more then anyone here possibly could. If its what you want to do, go for it.

Foutty · Post by **Foutty** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:09 pm

No cats for me. I have my daughter and my dog Willie. I just dont want to share my home with anyone else....although I would like to get another dog at some point.

Post by **Lyion** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:09 pm

The dating scene in the 30s indeed is great. However don't pass up 'it', unless you arent ready for it, or are recovering from living through ones 20s withIT

labbats · Post by **labbats** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:28 pm

You've loved her since you were 12?

Sarthis · Post by **Sarthis** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:39 pm

Since we were 14...though I'm not naive enough to think that I understood love at that age. We've known each other since we were four though.

labbats · Post by **labbats** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:41 pm

Why the rush to get married. Granted I proposed after only 20 months or so, but we had been living together most of that, aaaaand I was 29. Get engaged and set a date for late 2007.

labbats · Post by **labbats** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:41 pm

P.S.

Hi Sarthis

Sarthis · Post by **Sarthis** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:44 pm

It's two years away at the bare minimum, it'll likely not be until 2008 or 2009.

ps.
Hi Labbats~

labbats · Post by **labbats** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:48 pm

Ok, you have my blessing.

<3

horendus · Post by **horendus** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:49 pm

I'm 26 and have just recently started thinking about marriage. I guess I just never had the right person in my life until now. It's something we can even talk about together without either one freaking out. We both make little comments here and there about what 'our kids' will be like.

I think that if we do get married and have kids we will be having twins+, it's her generation in her family on both her dads side and her moms side. =/

Harrison · Post by **Harrison** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 3:49 pm

Darcler wrote:lol Sarth, dont defend your relationship, it makes you come off as weak and insecure, as anyone does who needs to defend their real lives.
Take Harrison for example. Or Mindia.

Love you Harri <3

DONT DO IT

Jimmy Durante · Post by **Jimmy Durante** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 6:13 pm

Sarthis wrote:Since we were 14...though I'm not naive enough to think that I understood love at that age. We've known each other since we were four though.

I'll be honest: I think it's pretty romantic that you've known each other since such a young age and have decided to tie the knot. Good for you!

(This is coming from an unhitched 29 year old, btw)

brinstar · Post by **brinstar** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 7:30 pm

yay iksar

Diekan · Post by **Diekan** » Wed Jun 01, 2005 7:52 pm

Marriage can be a good or bad thing. It completely depends on the people involved. To each his own.

It's good you've known each other for 10 years before hand. That sure beats the people who get married after a 6 month fling then wonder why it fails 2 years later. It's also good to hear what seems like you're getting married out of love and not something *else.*

If everything you've said thus far is on the up and up, and I don't know why it wouldn't be... been together for 10 years, in love with eachother... I'm sure it'll work out great. But, only you two know for sure.