So my friend asked me a tough question...

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So my friend asked me a tough question...

Postby Jay » Mon Dec 12, 2005 11:47 am

...and I need you guys' opinion. We both have a mutual friend named Jose who passed away back in September. He left behind a beautiful girlfriend whom he had a serious relationship with although he was 27 and she was 19. Months later, she's kinda eludes to my friend that she might be interested. My friend, being the kind of guy he is, is certain that if he wanted to he could fuck her brains out. The only dilemma is that he was good friends with Jose. So he asked me, "Dude do you think it would be just wrong if I banged Jose's chick?" I truthfully couldn't respond. Part of me says "Do it, you've both comes to terms with your loss and have moved on. Why not?" and the other half of me says "Man, that's fucked up."

What's your position on banging a dead friend's girlfriend?
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Postby Eziekial » Mon Dec 12, 2005 11:51 am

All is fair in love and war.
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Postby Martrae » Mon Dec 12, 2005 11:55 am

Well...not being a guy you can probably discount my opinion but here it is anyway.

Banging her just to bang her is fucked up. At the very least it's disrespectful to the memory of your dead friend. He cared for this girl and using her like that is about the same as pissing on his grave.

Even pursuing her for a serious relationship is iffy.
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Postby The Kizzy » Mon Dec 12, 2005 11:57 am

I will agree with Martrae on all but one point. I think that if he did pursue a serious relationship with her, it would not be a bad thing. His friend loved this girl, and I am sure that the deceased would be pleased in knowing that he is taking care of her, even after he is gone.
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Postby Jay » Mon Dec 12, 2005 12:02 pm

The Kizzy wrote:I will agree with Martrae on all but one point. I think that if he did pursue a serious relationship with her, it would not be a bad thing. His friend loved this girl, and I am sure that the deceased would be pleased in knowing that he is taking care of her, even after he is gone.


Well, I wouldn't say that they were in love, but they were working in that direction. They hadn't been together long enough to be love. Jose was with her like...2 or 3 months ish.
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Postby Darcler » Mon Dec 12, 2005 12:14 pm

I agree, dont fuck her to fuck her. If your friend wants a relationship with her, thats ok.
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Postby Jesus » Mon Dec 12, 2005 12:21 pm

I wouldn't touch her. That sounds like a fucked up situation to say the least.
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Postby Spazz » Mon Dec 12, 2005 12:23 pm

If somehow they cought feelings for each other it wouldnt be to bad and i hear thats commen. But if he banged her just to bang her thats pretty wack.
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Postby Gypsiyee » Mon Dec 12, 2005 12:23 pm

Even if they weren't in love, it would still be wrong to use her as just a fuck.. even if he were alive, think about it.. if you broke up with your gf, had been dating just a couple months but cared about her a lot and had a clean breakup and still cared about her.. how would you feel about your good friend boinking her for the sake of boinking just 2 months after you broke up with her?

A relationship, maybe.. but only if it was taken slowly, at least at first. Fucking her just to fuck her is really disrespectful and says quite a bit about both of them if they were to do it

I'm sure most of the guys on NT would disagree and say just do it, but its just not right.
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Postby Eziekial » Mon Dec 12, 2005 12:36 pm

I agree that's the way to go if they are interested in a serious relationship to take things slow.
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Postby Jay » Mon Dec 12, 2005 12:42 pm

I think he would go for the relationship possibly, definately the sex though. She's hot.
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Postby Tikker » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:14 pm

if the dead dude was only with her for less than 6 months, she's fair game


it's not like they were engaged to be married, or whatnot


for 2-3 months of dating between hot chick and dead dude, there should be like a 1 month cooling off period, then go for it
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Postby The Kizzy » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:22 pm

Tikker, it isnt an equation. Insensitive Ape
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Postby Phlegm » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:34 pm

Gypsiyee wrote:Even if they weren't in love, it would still be wrong to use her as just a fuck.. even if he were alive, think about it.. if you broke up with your gf, had been dating just a couple months but cared about her a lot and had a clean breakup and still cared about her.. how would you feel about your good friend boinking her for the sake of boinking just 2 months after you broke up with her?


Whether he is looking for a relationship or just sex, Jose could care less since he is worm food so this reasoning is moot.
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Postby The Kizzy » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:37 pm

You can tell some of the guys here think with their dicks and not their hearts.
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Postby Phlegm » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:41 pm

I am just stating fact.
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Postby Tossica » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:42 pm

Ugh... the friend is dead. Why even consider his "feelings" on the issue? If your living friend doesn't feel weird about it and the 19yr old hottie is looking to hook up, what's the issue here?
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Postby Xaiveir » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:47 pm

I doubt very seriously Mr. Jose is going to haunt anyone that decided to date or fuck a girl he was interested in.

He is dead................

I doubt he cares...............

Remeber the dead, dont live your life scared of what the deceased will think. You have to live YOUR life.

If he was looking down, he would probably be happy that his friend was hooking up with someone he was interested in. If they get together and have a good relationship then Jose would be comforted in knowing that his death had a purpose, and that said lady would be happy and well taken care of.

Jesus this is a dumb question, some people amaze me with their sniveling ........oh thats not right, Jose would not have wanted that. Its not fucked up, its not bad morales, its not deceitful, its not harmful in any way. There is NO issue.

Hook it up.
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Postby Xaiveir » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:49 pm

And before someone says "thats him talking with his dick, and not his head"

Uhhh no its not. If i was Jose, shit im dead.......go for it man.
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Postby Tossica » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:51 pm

Yeah, it's not like your buddy killed Jose so he could get with his girlfriend.... RIGHT?!
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Postby Tikker » Mon Dec 12, 2005 1:55 pm

The Kizzy wrote:Tikker, it isnt an equation. Insensitive Ape


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the dude's been dead for months

the dead dude dated the chick for under 4 months

get over your pretentious feelings

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Postby Tacks » Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:01 pm

Uhhh relationships are a two way street. If she wants to fuck just to fuck then what is the problem?
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Postby The Kizzy » Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:10 pm

I don't agree, Tikker, I feel he is betraying his friend.
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Postby Xaiveir » Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:25 pm

The Kizzy wrote:I don't agree, Tikker, I feel he is betraying his friend.


His friend that is Dead and probably doesnt give a shit?
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Postby Phlegm » Mon Dec 12, 2005 2:27 pm

Phlegm wrote:
Gypsiyee wrote:Even if they weren't in love, it would still be wrong to use her as just a fuck.. even if he were alive, think about it.. if you broke up with your gf, had been dating just a couple months but cared about her a lot and had a clean breakup and still cared about her.. how would you feel about your good friend boinking her for the sake of boinking just 2 months after you broke up with her?


Whether he is looking for a relationship or just sex, Jose could care less since he is worm food so this reasoning is moot.
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