So a friend calls me tonight

[Ginzburgh]

hehe shithead... i meant passed judgment and you know it. :P

I know

And my girlfriend would be on your side about this as well. After all, she IS a woman and she is devoutly against cheating under any circumstance. I guess it's a subject that most men and women will never agree on...or admit to agree on.

[Jay]

It was worth it, it probably won't happen again, while that doesn't make it right, no emotions attached or anything, we barely ever talk, once or so every week to say hi and that's about it. Call me a bad person, i don't really care, but it was well worth it. And the guy she's dating is on duting in alaska for like another 2 months, he's banging other women every chance he gets, and doesn't think of it as cheating because he doesn't feel anything for the women he's messing around with. He's even keeping in touch with them after the one night stands via email and shit. And then openly admits it to her as if he was bragging.

So whatever, two wrongs do make a right, 3 4 and 5 do though.

He's not cheating on her. Cheating requires deceit and the guy is upfront about it. Just because a guy has sex with other women doesn't mean she should fuck other dudes behind his back (if she's being dishonest to him that is).

[Ginzburgh]

That's retarded Jay rofl.

[Jay]

Think about it, it's not like he's hiding it. When a man is with another woman in secret, that's cheating. If he's upfront about it and she chooses to stay with him, it's not cheating. Replace man with woman, it's the same thing.

[Jay]

Also, men can easily remove emotion when it comes to sex. It's more of a visual sensation. With women in general it's due to something emotional or psychological. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's more ok for guy to have multiple partners than it is for a girl to have multiple partners.

[leah]

i agree (about women not being detached about sex like men are)... i choke up at the mere thought of joshua having another girl on the side

[Guntaag Gorefeast]

Ive been faced with the exact same situation, Twice and said no. First time the girl was dating a guy i worked with, second time she was dating someone i hardly knew. Both were gorgeous and both are filed permenantly in my whore folder.


The rawr he man in me wanted to do them on the spot but i guess my brain is bigger than my balls ;P

[Jay]

i agree (about women not being detached about sex like men are)... i choke up at the mere thought of joshua having another girl on the side

See, it's easy to misconstrue this point. When a man is with a woman he loves, yeah, sex can be meaningful and filled with emotions and all that gay shit. When a man is on the prowl and trying to get his nut off on a myspace whore (hi Diekan), emotionless. Women on the other hand are sleeping with someone either because they are lacking something emotionally, psychologically or both OR they see the man as a potential candidate to stay with them. Who are your typical whores? Girls with daddy issues, abuse victims, very strict upbringing borderlining abuse, dependancy issues, abandonment issues etc etc. Guys that fuck a lot, could be wackos, could be your average guy. Sex plays no role in a male's distinction.

EDIT: In the casual sense, not in the relationship sense.

[Ginzburgh]

i agree (about women not being detached about sex like men are)... i choke up at the mere thought of joshua having another girl on the side

Is there any way you can just call him Josh? Every time you say "joshua" (which is quite often) I shudder.

[leah]

hehehe i do it on porpoise :P

mostly because it makes me think of that time period on friends during which rachel was dating that joshua guy and she would always go "and it's not josh, it's JOSHWA" hehe. love it.

oh and because it irritates people. :P

but yes, i'll tone it down... i will only call him joshua when he's trying my patience or if he did something stupid. ^_^

[Ginzburgh]

If my name was Josh or Alex or Ray it would annoy the shit out of me if my girlfriend called me Joshua or Alexander or Raymond.

[leah]

haha i don't call HIM that, usually.. seriously, only if he's being an idiot. actually, i don't even call him josh--it's typically "honey." :P

alex's name isn't actually alexander. fun fact! ^_^

[Jazendar]

I broke up with my most recent girlfriend because of the kinda stuff you're doing leah, i mean the whole Joshwa Joshua thing. She became overly attached and wanted to see me every second of every day. And when she is with me she wouldn't give me a second of space. then she started talking about marriage, white picket fences and the names of children. I figured it was a good time to bounce.

You're young, don't make the same mistake my ex made and bring up the future, that's the very last thing any young guy wants to hear.

Guntaag- A lot of women our age don't even want a relationship, strings attached, emotions and all that stuff. They want 1 thing, to have fun while they can. Some girls want to get attached, but most have spent their mid teens losing their virginity, getting addicted to sex, dumped by their BF's for the same reason I dumped mine, and learned from it.

It's too young to be looking for the love of your life, or any love period. Looking won't help, because looking will bring you to women in the clubs. It will come to you in time, probably later in the years, that's why i'm not worried about it.

[leah]

lol i pretty much never bring up the future. we haven't even made plans for labor day, let alone the rest of our lives. trust me, i am not the smother-y kind of girlfriend. he spends pretty much his entire afternoon/evening playing world of warcraft; i don't usually even see him until 9 or 10. we both do our own things--i spend my day at work until 5, at which point i go to the gym until 7 and then hang out with my roommate for a few hours. all i ever really ask of him is to sleep in the same bed as me some night and to put out once in awhile. :P oh, and a date every now and again (we're both poor so it doesn't happen too often... date could = going to the grocery store hehe)

though i don't really understand how you can say that anyone is "too young" to find love.

[Guntaag Gorefeast]

o i fully agree jaz man. Like i said i really am alot different than 99% of dudes out there. Ive prettymuch been a father to my brother 4yrs younger than me, and in my sisters eyes i really am. Being the older brother of a girl with daddy issues as you call them makes me really see the sad side of girls doing what you described - going out in their teens and fucking anything hard ect ect. Ive done my job though and my sister is by no means a whore so im happy for that.


I do agree, the only serious girlfriend ive ever had was over 5 years my age. She was the one talking about tieing the knot first ect and we waited a considerable period before ever going out even,took it reletively slow (it was a long distance thing for a while, when we first met it wasnt,long story).

In the end i probably smothered her a bit much and took too much stock in the relationship,figuring a girl whos 26 is serious when she says its time to settle down. Atm shes fixing to meet up with diekan ;P

Live and learn, the casual sex thing and the bar scene isnt for me, but like i said its probably got alot to do with my upbringing, or lack thereof. Ive been a father figure to my sister since before i was even attracted to women. Not that i regret it,im sure ill find someone but it will probably take a long time and i wouldnt be surprised if i have my heart ripped out again. Live and learn ;P

And , meeting this girl when i was barely 18 and being togethre while i was 19-20, i can definately say that i was in love with her and its likely i would have married her. I wouldnt count age as having much to do with maturity as far as love goes really, if she had meant the things she said and been the person she seemed to be for those years we wouldnt have broken it off. The person i marry will be very much like the girl i thought she was.

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[xKALECx]

i agree (about women not being detached about sex like men are)... i choke up at the mere thought of joshua having another girl on the side

Is there any way you can just call him Josh? Every time you say "joshua" (which is quite often) I shudder.

When I read "Joshua" I started singing "Where the Streets Have no Name".....

[Martrae]

If her guy is slamming bar skanks I just hope she didn't pass along a gift that keeps on giving to ya, Jaz.

[dammuzis]

you didnt answer an earlier questing

did you put it in her pooper?

[Harrison]

Not entirely true Jaz, I was completely content with settling down before.

Now I don't care.

[Jazendar]

I said rare not impossible harrison.

No I didn't put it in her pooper, -50dkp i know =/

And I wore a condom, i asked her last night if she had anything or the last time she's been tested. She said she was clear but i didn't think twice about taking the risk.

[araby]

Jazendar you're just really stoked that a 29 year old chick wants you and you should be. You should also realize that it's okay for women to want you. You have to decide what you're going to do about that on your own big boy. It's really nice of you to think of her and her loyalty to her boyfriend and all that bullshit but not really, she obviously doesn't care. She came right out and said clearly she wanted to fuck you. why does that make her a whore...she's just attracted to you is what that means. There have been harsh judgements made here...she's not settling down with this guy and he's not with her, their relationship is one of convenience and I don't think I'd consider the moral bottom line here, as I think it's just an attraction. Otherwise, it's really not okay to rub another man's rhubarb.

This girl isn't in love with the guy she's living with/cheating on. She takes what he does with other women, she obviously does what she wants...it's a relationship of convenience. Ever heard of married couples?

[Guntaag Gorefeast]

bah

[Phlegm]

I said rare not impossible harrison.

No I didn't put it in her pooper, -50dkp i know =/

And I wore a condom, i asked her last night if she had anything or the last time she's been tested. She said she was clear but i didn't think twice about taking the risk.

Did you wear the fireman's helmet like I suggested?

[Zanchief]

If my name was Josh or Alex or Ray it would annoy the shit out of me if my girlfriend called me Joshua or Alexander or Raymond.

People aren't called Josh, Alex and Ray.

[Lyion]

i agree (about women not being detached about sex like men are)... i choke up at the mere thought of joshua having another girl on the side

Is there any way you can just call him Josh? Every time you say "joshua" (which is quite often) I shudder.

When I read "Joshua" I started singing "Where the Streets Have no Name".....

I think of this