Birth father information.

Markarado · Post by **Markarado** » Wed Sep 27, 2006 10:51 pm

He was in the army as was my birth mother. The DNA test is possible I guess, but it would be rather difficult for me to have this done while I'm living in Malaysia.

Jazendar · Post by **Jazendar** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 1:03 am

The Kizzy wrote:MArk, I am assuming your father was in the military. You can look it up starting there. It may cost some money, but you can get your DNA tested and they can run a match through a computer system and give you a list of possible fathers.

And then be the first white person to take it to maury, chop chop, i'll be tuning in everyday at 3.

Juls · Post by **Juls** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 8:40 pm

mark force ur bithmom to tell u god damnit

Markarado · Post by **Markarado** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 9:04 pm

She still didn't reply to my email. My younger brother (that lives with her) told me that she said she really wants to read the email over before replying to me. What the hell is there to read that could possibly be confusing? I guarantee'd her I will do everything in my power to not fuck up his family, but that I do plan to meet him and my half sister some day. It's been a week since I sent he the email.

Darcler · Post by **Darcler** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 9:55 pm

Seriously, what do you expect to accomplish by meeting them?
I dont know the whole story, but what if he left her because he didnt want a kid then? Youre unwanted goods. Do you even realize how very awkward it would be to just show up on his doorstep and say hey dad I was a load that wasnt swallowed 20something years ago?
Oh hey son, come in and have coffee.

What do you hope to happen? I'd think this whole thing through a bit more...

Markarado · Post by **Markarado** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 10:04 pm

I don't hope for anything. I may have been unwanted goods by my birth parents, but I was and am very much so wanted goods by my parents. I have a mom and a dad. I don't need or want another dad or mom. I can't stand my birth mom, and I thank God every day that I was adopted.

For now all I want is to find more information about him. I'm curious, that's all. But yes, some day I do want to meet my him and my half sister. I have no expectations.... simply curiosity.

Darcler · Post by **Darcler** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 10:10 pm

I just think its a bad idea to meet them. You can say you wont mess their family up all you want, but in a way, you will.
My cousin did years worth of searching for a brother her mother had given away years before having her. She finally found him and went to meet him...out of curosity, like you.
He was so resentful, him being given away, her being kept. Her knowing her mother while she was alive and him never getting to meet her.
It didnt go well, as he was completely different than what she saw in her head. It will be the same for you...

The Kizzy · Post by **The Kizzy** » Thu Sep 28, 2006 11:40 pm

Damn Darc, harsh a bit?

Markarado · Post by **Markarado** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 2:58 am

I was the one given away, and I have no resentment. I've had a good life, and I love my parents. How would it be the same? Is she going to be resentful that I was given away? :lol:

Minrott · Post by **Minrott** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 3:44 am

The only reason I'd like to know who my biological parents are is so I could trace my geneology. Other than that, I don't really care. Frankly I don't see any benefit in making contact with someone who was nothing more than an incubator.

kaharthemad · Post by **kaharthemad** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 7:15 am

the best way is to route back thru the adoption agency. Once your 18 they have to by law give you information concerning your birth record and so on. From there you can check hospital records.

Other than that. Get atleast the city/state they live in and take out a advert.

Darcler · Post by **Darcler** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 9:44 am

Markarado wrote:I was the one given away, and I have no resentment. I've had a good life, and I love my parents. How would it be the same? Is she going to be resentful that I was given away?

The pooint I finally got around to was that they arent going to be the people you have in your head.

You should really take to Min's way of going about it. Look them up, but dont go disrupt their lives.

Jay · Post by **Jay** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 11:46 am

Wouldn't be a sweet bit of irony if Mark's dad was a big black dude and nailing Amy?

araby · Post by **araby** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 11:59 am

haha Jay..oh man you have to STOP

Darcler · Post by **Darcler** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 12:04 pm

Jay wrote:Wouldn't be a sweet bit of irony if Mark's dad was a big black dude and nailing Amy?

Haha just when you thought the joke was getting old, Jay comes back and revives it. Good show.

Tikker · Post by **Tikker** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 1:20 pm

Mark, take this for what it's worth

If your Dad wanted to know you, or about you, he would have by now

he doesn't care, so don't waste your time

ps, there's no way you can meet your half sister without fucking up their lives

Darcler · Post by **Darcler** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 1:21 pm

Tikker wrote:Mark, take this for what it's worth

If your Dad wanted to know you, or about you, he would have by now

he doesn't care, so don't waste your time

ps, there's no way you can meet your half sister without fucking up their lives

Tikker knows what I'm tlaking about. I wasnt saying anything earlier to be "harsh", just saying you cant do it without effecting them.

Zanchief · Post by **Zanchief** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 1:25 pm

Tikker wrote:Mark, take this for what it's worth

If your Dad wanted to know you, or about you, he would have by now

he doesn't care, so don't waste your time

ps, there's no way you can meet your half sister without fucking up their lives

Plus you're kind of a wanker so that will probably strain the relationship.

Post by **Gidan** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 1:39 pm

The only good reason I can think of for you to find out about your Father would be a medical history. What you might be genetically predisposed to from his family.

Jay · Post by **Jay** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 1:42 pm

Don't listen to them Mark. Maybe your dad is looking for you too. I mean, if I had an estranged son and I was short on some cash I'd try and build a relationship with him and pretend like I care then hit him up once and a while for some dough. As long as you create the illusion in your head you can be happy about it.

10sun · Post by **10sun** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 3:56 pm

Mark secretly wants to hook it up with his half sister, that is the truth.

Post by **Martrae** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 3:58 pm

Did you guys read what he wrote...the guy doesn't know Mark exists.

10sun · Post by **10sun** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 4:06 pm

Martrae wrote:Did you guys read what he wrote...the guy doesn't know Mark exists.

I'd say its 50/50 in actuality.

Jay · Post by **Jay** » Fri Sep 29, 2006 4:08 pm

If he doesn't know Mark exists then it's best that it's kept that way. Why complicate this guy's life?

Markarado · Post by **Markarado** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 1:18 am

His family doesn't know I exist. He knows. My birth mother has his phone number and email. He was the one who told her that he has a family that has no clue about me. My birth mom won't give me the info cause she's worried about me fucking up his family.

I wouldn't simply go meet my half sister. I would email my birth father and go from there. I have no idea what to expect. Like I said, it's simply curiosity.