ChICk and Clubs

[Tossica]

If you need relationshits advice, ask me. I'm the professional.

[Diekan]

Because in order to really dish out honest, accurate and quality advice - you have to really KNOW someone. Now, perhaps if you've got those like brinstar and araby (who've actually met in real life and know each other) then sure... but me asking you, or you asking me for serious advice doesn't exactly work.

I don't know jack about you, really, and neither do you about me. Despite the superficial drivel we all post here on a daily basis - none of us really know each other. With a few exceptions in regards to those who've actually met.

It's not that we're not "real people" at the other end, nor is it because an issue of intellect - it's just hard to offer or take real advice to someone who you don't really know or who doesn't really know you.

[Harrison]

I'd probably not ask anyone here with VERY few exceptions about actual, real, advice regarding relationships etc.

That's too complicated when they don't know the other person involved personally.

[Jay]

I ask Gypsiyee. She keeps it real.

[Gypsiyee]

Word.

[Jay]

You should come to the Bay Area and wingman for me one day.

[Gypsiyee]

Sure thing, soon as I'm not broke as a joke and can afford to fly out there.

[Gargamellow]

you don't have to KNOW someone to give good advice...
alot of situations in life are mirror images of each other....

it is true that you need to hear the whole story....but KNOW? i don't think so

[Diekan]

you don't have to KNOW someone to give good advice...
alot of situations in life are mirror images of each other....

it is true that you need to hear the whole story....but KNOW? i don't think so

Wrong.

[Darcler]

Uh, Diek's right. You do need to know about the whole thing from both sides in order to tell someone what you think. You could tell us your side, we throw in our 2 cents, and you do something stupid because we only knew your side. (Hello, prenup situation).

Relationship advise is not to be asked over the interwebz.

Underwear, cars and birthcontrol, on the other hand, are fine to ask about.

[Markarado]

Often it's very helpful to get advice from someone that is completely unrelated to you in real life. It's easier to get objective advice that way.

[Darcler]

Yes, but not about relationships. Seriously, take Gargs prenup thread for example. The way she was telling us, Whatshisname was being a dick about it. When Whatshisname came on here to defend garg (snicker) we foudn out that it was because of family pressures. That changes any advice we would have given.
See what I mean?
If it is advice that you need involving two people and your lives, it really should be asked to complete stranger, especially when the other person isnt here to give their side of a story.

[Markarado]

When I asked for relationship advice you all ended up being right. I just didn't listen.

[Gaazy]

and a lot of times i think people will change the other persons side or overexaggerate to try to make them sound like more of an asshole (if thats what the story is going toward) if you know what I mean

[KaiineTN]

Mark brings up an interesting point, lots of times when people openly ask for advice, we become very selective listeners or just plain old don't take any of the advice that is offered. It's like we can't find a good way to deal with an issue, so we ask other people until we find the one that has the magical easy answer to our problems.

Thus, asking for advice is partially a "hope" type of thing, hope that there is an easier or better way out of or through difficulties. It can become very frustrating and annoying to people who are actually asked for the advice, because it feels like wasted effort when they don't do or even consider doing what you suggested, even when it turns out that whatever that was could have saved them a lot of trouble.

I know I've annoyed the hell out of a couple people by not taking advice they offer when I ask for it. I guess no matter what anyone says, sometimes you just need to experience things for yourself and make your own mistakes.

A quote from High Strung says it best, "People just believe what they want to believe."

[Markarado]

Actually, I did follow part of the advice I was given. Most of you said to bone her, so I boned her. That was good advice.

[KaiineTN]

Well that would be selective listening! ;p

[Gargamellow]

he also thinks the prenup is BS so my point is still valid

secondly...anyone with any experience helping people knows that people give clues

and i have never been able to advise myself..which is why i am here

[Gaazy]

he should tell his family to mind their own fucking business. if HE loves you and trusts you, thats all that should matter in the situation, imo

[Gargamellow]

his dad is old..i told him i don't care

if it means that much to his dad then we just won't get married

either he will grow up or some grown up man will sweep me up

[Gaazy]

wait was it his pappy or grandpappy that has the inheritance again?

[Gargamellow]

his father of whom i respect

if we just wait to get married after his father dies..we don't have to worry about paying a lawyer for the prenup..we just get hitched and it's all good know what i mean vern?

[Gaazy]

ya, lawyers suck, overfuckingpaid

marriage is a piece of paper

[Gargamellow]

im sayin lol

[Gaazy]

i need to sleep but i cant help help