by araby » Tue Aug 26, 2008 12:04 pm
Don't get jaded so young. I am pretty sure I did and it might be the reason I've failed to keep a relationship, but do the smart thing and listen to what the older, wiser folks tell you. Don't be hard-headed and argumentative and don't make excuses. They lead to more excuses.
You're young, handsome and smart enough to know better. Be careful not to get caught up with the wrong folks. Most importantly, remember that you deserve someone who is awesome. When you truly believe that, she will come into your life.
I've learned a good lesson in knowing that things don't happen *to* us. Things happen. It's how we deal with those things that matters the most. You can make things easier, or harder for yourself.
I realize it's easy to say these things when you're not *in* the situation, believe me. In getting caught up with my own emotions, I failed for a long time to see people for what they truly were. I lost faith in myself. Without getting that faith back, I might not have ever seen it. Your circle of influence is the most important thing in your life, aside from your self-perception, and one will affect the other, if you're not careful. This can even apply to family.
Be true to yourself and don't lower your standards for anyone. Timing is everything. I do wish you the best of luck, cause I know how much this bullshit can suck and because everyone deserves to be happy.